Get Real With The English Sisters - Mind Health Anxiety
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Get Real With The English Sisters - Mind Health Anxiety
From Striving to Thriving: Finding Fulfillment in Simplicity
Are we always chasing more, forever stuck in a relentless pursuit of perfection? Welcome to our exploration of a perhaps underrated concept: contentment. Let's dive into the vortex created by modern culture that keeps us in a constant state of comparison and the insatiable quest for more. The result? A society burdened with anxiety and discontentment. As we navigate this sea of aspiration and perfection, we also delve into the impact of technological advancements - they've simplified our lives, but at the same time, given us room to ruminate and compare ourselves to others.
Next, we shake off the societal pressures and embrace the idea of a "good enough" life. We discuss how intentionally choosing to be content can create a deep sense of fulfillment. It's time to redefine success, to challenge the notion that more is always better. We're excited to share some practical strategies to help you shift your focus from incessant striving to appreciating what you already have. We'll explore contentment as a powerful tool to overcome anxiety and find joy in simplicity. Let's embark on this journey towards contentment together.
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Are you content? Most of the time, I am content. Is contentment sexy? Not really. It might not be sexy, but it sure is powerful. It sure is.
Speaker 1:Listen to this week's episode of Get Real With the English Sisters, available on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcast. And today we're going to be chatting about why contentment is underrated. Yeah, and how, you know, maybe just living a life that's good enough is enough, is actually good enough. It really is enough. So, yeah, yeah, because perfection I mean we see the perfect lifestyle, the perfect house. Oh my goodness, the perfect looks Exactly.
Speaker 1:And when you think I don't look like that, no, we're constantly striving, striving, and my house doesn't look like that, oh my gosh, I haven't got that car, I haven't got that hair, I haven't got that body, I haven't got that car, I haven't got that house. So in the end, it's constantly I am not enough, isn't it? That's very boiled down to it or boiled down to that and that creates enormous anxiety. So how can we be more content with what we have? How can we? I'm just wondering if this is like a modern disease, it's. If our ancestors used to be content of it, what the same as us I think it partially, is a modern disease because we have more time. As you know, a lot of our duties and things that we used to have to do are done by machines and we have more time. I suppose that's true. We don't spend hours having to like wash by hand anymore or anything. No, you don't have to go down to the fountain. My mother-in-law used to tell me she would have to do here in Italy when she was young Go all, go down to the fountain and sing their songs and wash the clothes. A machine does that. So while the machine is washing the clothes, for you have time to ponder, to wonder, and your hands aren't always busy doing something, so your mind can. It could be more of a luxury to have. So do you think it's a lack of like physical physicality, of physical labor that is making us be more anxious, because before we would be so busy that, like doing everyday tasks, that you literally yes, if you were so physically tired by the end of the day, exhausted you'd lay in your bed and think, ah, bedtime, sleep. You still might not have been content, though, because you still might have been comparing yourself to I don't know some duchess who had, who had, you know aid in it. But how could you see that you wouldn't be? You don't see as much You'd be so accessible, would you? No, it wasn't. And did you have to see things out in remote fashion magazines or like little newspapers? Well, like, there was always people that were economically better off than you, and there were people like even my mother-in-law.
Speaker 1:Going back to her story, she said that she actually worked for these rich people in, and you know, her dad used to look after the grounds and and and and and and half of the food and everything. And she said, when the lady would come in from Milan, she was always dressed with the finest clothes. I don't think she's never actually said that she wasn't content with her life, though but she would notice it. I think it was so far, it was so far removed from her that she could never even possibly imagine being like that. No, they were always very grateful that the lady was lovely. She let them have all the food they wanted on the farm and you know they could even sell some of the eggs and whatever. I mean. I can't remember all the details, but yes, she was. They were always. They used to love. They used to love this lady. She actually named her first son my, my, my husband after a name, that that that these people gave her. They said, call him, you know, george, call him George, and so she named him George or so, and I don't think she was. So she was content then. You would say Totally, she was actually content.
Speaker 1:Yes, I mean, there there were comparisons to be made, but perhaps you're right, it was kind of on a different, I think. Now the fact that we can, we have all the comparisons that we want, are like in our hand, they're very close to us, aren't they? Because we see them, even though they're on a screen, and we follow these people that we compare ourselves to. Yeah, yeah, very often, yeah, we follow them, so we get to see what they're doing today and what you're doing today, and so, yeah, the whole thing can become, it can become a disease of the modern era. You're right, yeah, I think it has become a disease. Well, it's become an anxiety inducing thing, it's. It's quite sad, really, because we have, we have this technology, but instead of it making us feel better about ourselves, it's making, often making us feel worse about ourselves.
Speaker 1:Well, it's how you use it. Once again, it can either increase your anxiety or decrease it If you start, if you go on there and you're looking on your phone, you look for mindful practices, yoga, happy letters, anything that you're particularly interesting. You can learn that there's university entire courses you can study by looking. So it's, it's how you use it. Very often, we don't know how to use it very well, and so we can get caught up in and we get bombarded with stuff all the time, don't we?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you need this in order to have the perfect skin. You need to get this so that your house will look sparkly. You need this. Even the advertisements have this. So before they used to be just like random, yeah, now it's. Now there's those targeted towards your what you might be.
Speaker 1:So it I taste you down this like weird, like loop, as if you're never content, never enough, never enough, never content. You're already probably not that content with yourself and perhaps where you are in your life. So, yeah, that I think, coming back down to it, we have to. We have to learn to appreciate ourselves once again and understand that we are good enough and living a life that's not perfect, that's not as shiny as what we might think it's supposed to be, that we can't buy the house and we can barely maybe able to pay rent. That's good enough. That is good enough.
Speaker 1:And having you feel so good, if you thought like that, yeah, and when you can feel as if good enough, is fantastic, then you don't have to have all this striving. Yeah, all this shiny stuff, the shiny the, the expectancy, the expectations. It's so stressful. It's really tiring, isn't it? It's tiring mentally and exhausting, and it's it robs you of your real time that you have in this world. It's robbing you. It's stealing the everyday, isn't it? It's stealing all of it. It's stealing all the good enough that you already have. Yeah, it's stealing all of it, because if you look around you, you do probably have good enough. If you're listening to this podcast, you're managing to be able to have internet or whatever you've got you've, you've probably already got good enough, and you're not. You know you're not doing that badly at the moment. So, whatever, you do have it.
Speaker 1:If you do think this is good enough, because when you think that something's good enough, it actually makes you feel amazing. Did you think it actually makes you feel amazing? Yeah, so instantly, because instantly it will make you feel amazing. If you think, oh, I've got, you know, one room rented apart, rented one room, rented room. But this is amazing. Yeah, I got this and I've got some way to sleep and I've got some way. You're gonna feel really good. But if you think, oh, no, why? You know, my friends got their parents, their parents are paying for their. They've got a whole flat to themselves, then you're gonna be feeling, oh, this isn't good enough and I feel bad.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're right, it's intentionally settling into the idea of being content with what you have. That's a skill. I think that's a bit like a muscle. I think if you can be intentional about it, you have to kind of like think, okay, this is gonna be my intent for the day. I am going to be content with what I have right now and it's going to be good enough. So if I can pay for that bus fare to get there and I'm not going to be looking at people that have cars and can get that, no, this is good enough. I can manage to get a ticket on the bus or whatever you know, to just any random example here. Whatever it is, it's good enough. I think if you're intentional about that, that's how your mind can really begin to open and you can really begin to lose and shed all of that unwanted anxiety and comparisons and whatever the hell it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and if you look at all these shiny comparisons to people that you're comparing yourself to, in the end, if you look into the properly, into their lives, they probably have a lot of sense of not being good enough as well. That's why they have to kind of always be on show as well, and I think that's why they're very often people that do apparently have it all. They might talk to somebody who's leading a very simple life and think how can you be happy? I mean, look at you, you've got nothing. You don't seem to have everything that I have. Why are you always so happy? Because it's, it's being content. That isn't what your job isn't even that great. Why are you content with that job? Why aren't you striving for more? Because even the fisherman's job isn't it. Even the work has to be now so shiny and amazing, the top at this and the top at that, so creative and so this, and that I think I remember, like especially when I was at school. I remember grades. If I got just good enough, just good enough, I was happy.
Speaker 1:So we did kind of we weren't that over ambitious in things like that. But I don't think in those days they like encouraged you to, especially where we were in our schools. They didn't encourage you to be over ambitious, they just kind of told you going work in a supermarket Maybe not us, maybe other people, because we were the immigrant children, we were just, but there was lots of immigrants in that school. There were, yeah, but it was a school we went to. Yeah, you're right, yeah, maybe, because it wasn't like a grammar school, private school. They didn't really encourage you to do more than just be good enough. Yeah, just to settle, just to go into society, go into a factory or work somewhere or a factory or a factory or supermarket, or settle for very little. Really, that was seen as just normal, yeah, yeah, that was seen as normal, I guess. And now those kind of jobs aren't really considered to be normal. Most people see, because you see so much stuff that's so shiny online. That's not normal anymore.
Speaker 1:Better position yes, better positions are always striving for more and more and yes, it's good to strive for to better yourself every day. But when it is to anxiety, bettering our own mental health, what about that? When it is to anxiety because not everyone's cut out to no, and it's fine, it's been like that. Yeah. Yeah, you want to do manual jobs that's what we were saying before with your hands. That's great, that's great.
Speaker 1:There's much need for that in the world today. You're right. Yeah, not everyone needs to go and get a degree. Not everyone needs to. Now it's almost like a necessity, even for the most mundane jobs that you needed, for jobs that before you could like going to say, having a personal apprenticeship. Yeah, yeah, that's right. Now it's almost mandatory to have a degree for so many positions, which is ridiculous, I think.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know, I don't know, that's just a big business of the education. Yeah, it seems like it could be an education business. Yeah, they're just making so much money for it and putting people into debt as well, because you get into so much debt when you have the opportunity. Yeah, with the student loans. Yeah, that's right. Yeah, so definitely, I don't know. I don't know about that, but I think if we start thinking that being content is cool, being content is powerful, being content can be sexy, then I think we can revolutionise our world again. Yeah, we own it.
Speaker 1:Say, yeah, this is fine for me. So what? Yeah, I'm not going on holiday this year. I'm going to go down to the park with my little towel and get a few rays of sunshine, if I can. That's fine. That's good enough for me. Let's own it.
Speaker 1:Whatever you're doing, even if you are doing something amazing, be content with that. Do you know? There's so many times you don't even want to go to all these shiny places that you don't want to stay at home, but you feel as if you have to to say oh, and tick off the box. Yes, tick it off. I've been to New York, I've been to this, I've been to that. Yeah, truth is, you don't want to do that. Some people don't. I don't like saying that and that's fine. Yeah, and that is fine. It's not like we're not saying you know, become a little bit adventurous, do stuff, but only stuff that you want to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, as this is a podcast where we're helping you relieve anxiety, our main goal in each of our episodes is to help you understand how your brain works and what might actually be giving you anxiety. That you might not even be aware of, and not being content is one of those things that could really give you massive anxiety, and it's very subtle. Once again. You might not be aware of it, not aware of it Going about your deli, not aware of it at all, but you've got this feeling of not being good enough. Your life isn't good enough, you're not where you're supposed to be, your body isn't good enough, your body is not good enough, everything you do, and it's one long struggle. Become aware of it, put the stop to it. Stop it now. Stop it now. We're telling you, you know, stop it. Start being content and saying, yes, I am happy, I am content.
Speaker 1:Contentment also leads to gratitude. The more content you feel, the more gratitude you feel. Yes, you're right about that. Yeah, so that's always a positive To be content. Yeah, and it makes you feel more gratitude. Indeed, it does. So we are content with the way this podcast has gone. It's funny.
Speaker 1:Contentment you can. You can always be comparing yourself to others and never feel content. It's a strange world that we're in with this little, this competition. It is, yeah, competing against each other and really we should be just accepting being content with what we have and how we're going about our day, every day. Yeah, and not to say that content doesn't mean having desires, but these desires have to be truly and honestly your desires. Not, you know. You have to kind of like, think about that for a moment. Are they really my desires? Yeah, this is someone else's agenda. Yeah, yeah, so I think that's true as well. Yeah, share your thoughts and let us know how you feel. Are you content? Do you find that always striving for more gives you anxiety? Certainly, would give us anxiety. Yeah, definitely. So learn to be content with what you have and be intentional about thinking that, looking for the contentment that you already have and realizing that you are good enough and your life is good enough. Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 1:This podcast is available on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcast. Please follow us, and on Spotify, you can actually leave a little note saying what you feel. That's sweet. That's sweet, so very sweet. Yeah, looking forward to hearing from you, and come and follow us on Instagram too, at Get Bill With English Sisters and their English sisters. See you there. Bye, bye.
