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From Infatuation to Enduring Love: Navigating Passion, Stability, and Respect in Relationships
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Ever wondered if the fiery passion of being "crazy in love" can last forever? In this engaging episode of Get Real with the English Sisters - Mind, Health, Anxiety, we reflect on those exhilarating early days of infatuation and the emotional rollercoaster that often comes with them. Through personal stories, we consider whether these intense feelings are truly sustainable and how, with maturity, we begin to cherish a more balanced and enduring form of love.
Moving on, we discuss the invaluable role of stability and unconditional love in long-term relationships. From unwinding after a tough workday to understanding each other's needs, we share our insights on how communication and mutual respect evolve, especially as the dynamics of our relationships change over time. We contrast the constant need for drama with the quiet fulfillment of a peaceful, supportive partnership, emphasizing that balance and respect are the cornerstones of lasting harmony.
Finally, we dive deep into the themes of respect and appreciation. Developing empathy and conscious awareness can transform how we connect with our partners. We tackle the challenge of feeling like the only one making an effort to understand, noting that those who nurture these skills can encourage growth in others. Reflecting on gender differences and generational gaps, we highlight the importance of gratitude and cherishing the small moments. Join us for this heartfelt conversation, and don't forget to connect with us on Instagram!
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Crazy in love. That's what they say, isn't it? Yeah, and that's what we're going to be talking about today Whether it's better to feel like crazy in love, whether it's better to have a different kind of love, yes, so tune in to this week's episode of Get Real with the English Sisters, where we're crazy for you, with the English sisters, where we're crazy for you. So please remember to vote for us, for the women in podcasting awards, from the 1st of August that'll be up, and thank you so much for all your support. We're hitting even more countries now, so, yay, thank you. Remember to tell your friends about us as well, because that really does help us grow. Yes, it does. Yeah, so spread the word if you enjoy this podcast and, um, enjoy listening. Yes, and you can also see the video on youtube. Whatever, you can see us wait.
Speaker 1:Yes, we're in our blue outfit today. Yes, we do. We have our matching little dresses on. This is an old favourite of mine, this blue one. You love it, don't you? Yeah, it's like, because it's like classical. It looks a bit like. Yeah, if you can't see us, it looks a bit like a little suit. Yeah, I get Without any sleeves, with a sleeveless yeah, it's a sleeveless jacket.
Speaker 1:Jacket, yes, that's it. So it gives up. It's a bit smart, isn't it? It's quite. It's quite smart, but it's casual at the same time. Yeah, easy to train, yes, yeah, yeah, warm with trainers, yeah, easy. Trainers on? Yeah, other trainers now don't we? Yeah, we do. I mean, even in the summer. Now I don't like wearing sandals anymore. I've got used to them. Yeah, no, no, definitely not. My feet aren't protected now, yeah, now, yeah, so dirty? Yeah, they get dirty, don't they? And then your heels get dry, whereas, like this, you've always got your little, you know, socks on, little white socks on. No wonder men like wearing socks and shoes. Yeah, I can understand it. Now, well, it's not all men, do some? Some men love sandals too. Anyway, anyway, crazy in love. I'm crazy for you. Yeah, crazy, crazy, crazy.
Speaker 1:The reason why we decided to talk about this today is because there's a bit of a myth around love isn't there? Yes, there is a myth, yes, and you know, some people think that once they've surpassed, you know, the initial period of time, you mean the infatuation period, yes, the infatuation, when you feel like you know, every time that person, yeah, comes close to you, know your heart like misses a beat and you just just can't. You find that you can't even. You're completely entranced and bewitched by this person. Let's, let's face it. Then, when that kind of passes, do I still love them? Yes, or do they still love me, you know, is because you know it's not there anymore. You know that chemical feeling. The chemical, yeah, not just the chemical. Well, yeah, the physical feeling, the chemistry, yeah, no, I think the chemistry is always there, if it's there from the beginning, but it's not that wild, crazy. No, it's not the strong, strong, no, strong, strong, strong desire.
Speaker 1:You want to be together every minute, yes, yes, and you always have to have that touchy, touchy, always that contact, and that you literally can feel sick when the other person is going to go away from you, yeah, and get worried and anxious and anxious. What? Why are we talking about this? We're talking about it because is that the kind of love you really want? It was not sustainable.
Speaker 1:Is it because usually that kind of love as well, if it is just, if it goes on and on, it is usually the kind of love that comes with these high, higher lows. So these, yes, that's right, yeah, because of the anxiety it can bring as well, yes. So it's like okay, I'm your, I'm your lover, now for one minute, and then the next minute I'm not talking to you and yes, oh, yeah, that's why. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's yes, well, yeah, that yeah, totally, yeah, the high relationships are based on that kind of love and I think as you mature, you become to realize that that's not, that's not really the love that's worth loving and living. Loving and living, yeah, that's not the kind of love that's worth loving and living.
Speaker 1:Oh, right now I get it. Yeah, yeah, because you want the kind. Well, I mean, I would want a kind of love where I would feel supported, which I am in my relationship, in my, my marriage, my husband, for so many years. Yes, yeah, I always feel supported and loved and I know there's not going to be these highs and lows, it's just going to be quite stable and reassuring. That's what I want as well. Yeah, and that's what, luckily, I have too.
Speaker 1:I have created, yes, not these highs and lows, no, so you don't want to be fighting one day and arguing and then the next day, crazy mad, making up and making love. No, I must say I'm laughing because my husband's italian and he is a bit like that. Yeah, he used to really thrive on that. Yes, yeah, he did. Yeah, it's like, oh, I'm crazy about you, you're my divinity, ah, ah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1:And then you know, go through like a month, a time like that, and then, oh, and then start like having fights, squabbling, the squabbling over things that were completely irrelevant. And then now, over time, I think I've managed to also, you know, you don't want to say the word, do you? What word is it? Train him. No, I didn't want to say that word. I didn't mean train, I was going to say hypnotise, and I don't want to say hypnotise either, because that's not true. Show him the way.
Speaker 1:Yes, kind of like, lead him into the way I want the relationship to go, which I think is beneficial for both of us and which I know has proved to be beneficial for him too. So, to get over this craving that I think he kind of naturally needed for some reason. I don't know why. I don't know why, because I'm the opposite. I, I need safety, I need calmness.
Speaker 1:Yes, it's lovely to be, um, excited to share time with each other, but I don't want to have that. You know, the neediness or the. I'm fine on my own too. Yeah, yeah, for a bit. Obviously I don't want to always be on my own. I want him to be my partner and to support me as well, like what you were saying. But I mean I think it's more about peace of mind. You want to be in a relationship where you're peaceful and peaceful you have peace of mind.
Speaker 1:Yes, you know you're not going to come home to a partner. That might be variable, so variable. Yes, one day they might be super loving because everything's gone well for them yes, exactly, and the next day they're temperamental. It used to be more like that. Now he's matured over time. I mean, we've been together for 37 years now, so I mean it's a long time.
Speaker 1:You grow, you mature, you learn how to be respectful of each other's space. You know, there there are things like what you used to say. You learn to leave your husband alone in a certain certain time of day when you knew he needed. When he first got home, yeah, when he first got home. Yeah, I remember that you wish used to say no, no, you, actually there's been studies on that. They say that men need to have a time just to like. Probably women do as well, but we all do? Yeah, but for their testosterone levels, because it increases their testosterone. That's what I read somewhere. When they come home? Well, yeah, but when they come home, I think I'm not sure about right, okay, every now people need to. Basically, it's a long time without going scientifically. Yeah, yeah, this is not a scientific podcast, no, just by chatting.
Speaker 1:Yes, we have to understand that people need their space, don't they? Yes, they do. Sometimes people have to have more space than others, so you might be wanting to dying to tell them about your day and all the kids on them, yeah, yeah, and you don't realise that they've had a hard day too. And, yes, they need. Or you may realise they've had a hard day, but you don't care. No, you do care. You want them to talk about it. Well, you don't care. Because you? No, because you might want them to look after the kids or do something, because you're exhausted. Yes, okay, yes, okay, we'll do some other stuff. Because you can't wait for them to get back and say, here, you do bath time, you actually talk about it, and you say, look, all I need is like five minutes when I get home or 10 minutes. If you just give me that space, then I'll be okay and then I'll be ready to take everything on.
Speaker 1:But of course, communication, as we know, is the hardest thing to do for everybody. It's tough and it's it's something we're not really taught to do, unless we grew up in a family that was super communicative. But schools they don't teach. No, no one teaches you how to communicate in a positive way, and we don't really teach how to express ourselves and how to understand. You know how easy it is if we just tell our partner because we don't even know how to know it ourselves. We don't know it ourselves a lot of the time.
Speaker 1:But I mean, I think if you find that you don't want to get like, if you drive home and you're, you stay in the car and you find, yeah, and you don't actually want to get out of the car to enter your home, then you're one of those people that needs alone time when you get home and you probably think I won't get alone time because the minute I go home, uh, the person there that's in that house will not give me my space, will not allow for it, because they, yes, maybe they're overwhelmed. They are overwhelmed and they want their space, or they want to share space because they've been feeling lonely or just maybe they're overwhelmed. They are overwhelmed and they want their space, or they want to share space because they've been feeling lonely, or just because they're excited to see you and they don't get why you're not excited to see them and you are excited. It's just that you need some time to de-stress and just get rid of the day. Sometimes I mean, I think that's very, very common to need that debug, yeah, like to debug. You think, oh, I'm just gonna take a moment.
Speaker 1:As soon as I get home, I go decompress, decompress. I go straight to the bathroom, like the divers that have to. When they come up, they need need like 10 minutes or 15 or whatever. You need that time to get back to normal. You go to the bathroom, I go to the bathroom, I take a shower, I take my makeup off, I get changed, take my outdoor clothes off, put my indoor clothes on and I just want to be quiet.
Speaker 1:Yes, I don't really want to sit down and have a raging chat. No, no, no, he does. No, my husband does. Yes, he does. Yeah, he does actually. Yeah, he does. I mean, he respects you now he's oh. Yeah, he's understood it completely. Yeah, he does. Yeah, but like the minute he comes home, yes, he actually wants to chat and oh, all of it, all of a big long chat listen to me, listen to me, you know. And he wants me to look him in the eye. So even if I'm like putting the kettle on or starting to prepare the food, he'll say are you listening to me? Yes, I'm listening, it's just that I might not actually be looking at you. So I've realized now he actually wants me to sit down just to have like a glass of water or something and just one-on-one, just actually looking into each other's eyes and him just talking. Yeah, that's what he needs. That's what he needs. I've come to understand that. You know, was he used to that with his mother? Maybe no, his mom was always moving around cooking and he would never talk like that.
Speaker 1:I don't know where he's got this. It's obviously something he finds beneficial and so he enjoys it. He enjoys the attention, yeah, and he's also got a lot probably to get off his chest. You know, a lot of stuff goes on at work. He wants to share it. A lot of the goes on at work and he wants to share a lot of the time. He's excited because he loves his job as well and he's excited to share. He wants to show me the photos of the, the new items he's sourced, um, whatever he's found, because he's like in and into antiques and chandeliers and that. So he's really excited to share A lot of the times.
Speaker 1:It's both really, but I've come to learn, to learn to accept it. Well, yeah, I don't mind it. Now I know it. I say okay when you come home, but it's not like he expressed it verbally. You've got more time now, haven't you, because the kids have grown up. Oh, yeah, when the kids were little, we used to argue a lot more because I didn't realize exactly what he wanted and I was super busy, yeah, having you know one child, which was one, and then I had another one practically immediately afterwards. No, I did not, probably didn't, didn't give him, you know, that one-on-one. We used to talk a lot less. Yeah, I think it's, it's it's.
Speaker 1:I think, in the end, that is what you're looking for in a relationship that's going to be sustainable for a long time peace of mind and not this crazy in love thing. Well, no, gosh, I I don't. It's also so tiring. It's tiring, yes, it's like oh, it's the ups and the downs and will they, you know, text me and will they phone me, and it's also lovely and exciting, but it's meant to be. It's meant to be. It's meant to be short. Exactly, if you see that you're in a relationship and it's not short and it's going on for years and years, for years and years, like that, I mean, they can be so very successful. I can't.
Speaker 1:Our aunt, she had that with her husband. He was always crazy, she did, and I've always given her massive compliments. The next minute he'd be making her cry over something. Yes, yeah, that was a bit of a hype. He would do that every day, practically Every day. Yeah, like a cry over the same thing.
Speaker 1:You would think she would have learned, but she didn't know. She didn't understand how to change him, how not to get triggered by him, not how to change him, how to change herself. If she changed herself, she would change him. She would have understood it, react in the same way he did. No, I think she kind of probably there was a part of her that kind of thrived on that yes, yes, cuddling and the kissing yes, yes, yes, obviously he gave her a lot of attention in this particular case. He was a super loving person? Yeah, that would be super. He was always crazy about her, always, always giving her beautiful compliments and helping her a lot. He'd help her a lot in the house and everything. Yeah, he would, he would help her. He was a darling, so of course, she thrived on that.
Speaker 1:Then afterwards he had his temper. Nobody's perfect. Yes, I mean, but their relationship was more like that and I wouldn't want that. No, I mean, but their relationship was more like that and I wouldn't. No, I don't want that. I want calm. I want somebody that I love immensely, profoundly, but that also knows how to be calm and give me the peace of mind that, yes, it a drama. Like you know, this doesn't always have to be a drama every day. No, I, I don't want that, even though I'm married to an italian and a beautiful person. But they and I mean, obviously I don't know why I think that's that unusual because our mother was spanish. Well, yes, as well, so we're all Mediterranean our father was Hungarian, but I guess it's just was a different, it's a different temperament.
Speaker 1:A lot of the time, they had more of a stable relationship, wasn't it? It was very safe and stable. Yeah, yeah, maybe that's why I was a bit surprised. Yeah, yeah, we didn't really get that growing up. No, no, dad was very calm, yeah, very calm. Yeah, yeah, absolutely Super calm person.
Speaker 1:So, yes, it was very jolly and calm, wasn't it? Yeah, it was, yes, well, that's what we saw. It was lovely and jolly and calm. I mean jolly, we were like that, it was happy, happy, yeah, happy, very normal, yeah, calm. You can't say normal because everyone has a different normal. There weren't so many ups and downs and you can see that they really loved each other, but it wasn't this fervent like oh, no, no, like fighting and then making up and then, oh, mom and dad have had a fight, oh, no, they're okay now. Blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1:It wasn't like that and I think, I mean, I think, ideally, that's what we should all be looking for, because that's what gives us all the stability, the security and security that we need. Yeah, because it's kind of like that kind of unconditional love that you know that that person will be with you and, even if they've seen your flaws, they know your personality traits, they've understood you completely and and yet they love you. I think, yeah, that's very precious, yeah, that that's super precious, and it's not just when you're crazy in love and they see you looking all lovely and you're all super glam and all. Then they're looking all you know gorgeous, yeah, and you're out together having fun, yeah, and everything's going. Wow, the money fine, no, financial, exactly, yes. Problems with the health problems, no, yes. Yeah, it's like this bubble, isn't it that you go into, but then in real life, you know, life is one challenge after another. Really, that's what life is and it's how you live these challenges, how you live them together. That's important. And whether you feel supported and acknowledged by that person and love and safe going through these challenges with the other person. I think that's what true love is. Yeah, especially when you think you're not looking your best, you're not feeling your best. Oh, definitely, yeah, yeah, absolutely yes, they see you through. You know, whatever Thick and thin thick and thin and sickness and in health you know it's a bit like the bow, yeah, but they're there, aren't they? Yeah, and you know that they're there, yeah, and I think that's something that nobody should take for granted. That's. That's super important. That's much more important than you know.
Speaker 1:Being crazy in love for a bit, or the butterflies, that is, yeah, knowing that there's somebody, that when you text them, they're going to answer you. When you give them a ring, they're going to get back to you. They they're going to be there for you. When you know, what are you laughing at?
Speaker 1:I'm just thinking of a funny thing I saw on instagram, where there there's this uh, this person was phoning everyone. She says I'm phoning everyone because I'm on on. This is me phoning everyone on my way home from work. Right, you see, in the car, yeah? And she said and and now I'm home, chilling and I'm not answering any of the calls that they didn't pick up. And now I'm home, chilling and I'm not answering any of the calls that they didn't pick up. That's a bit mean. They say we're phoning her back and she's all happy now, and she doesn't care. I'm not on my journey home anymore, so I'm chilling. So now leave me alone.
Speaker 1:This was only like a call while I was journeying. Yeah, because I wanted to sort of fill my time, fill my time, yeah, oh, that is funny. I fill my time, fill my time, yeah, oh, that that is funny. But I'm just chilling in my pajamas, oh right, so it's not the right moment. No, yeah, so that's a bit like that in love as well? Is it? When? Is it the right moment?
Speaker 1:Is it you're just using that person just for your own convenience? You know you're just feeling these butterflies, and looking and chasing these butterflies is crazy. And love just because it suits your agenda, or is it something that you really you know you're really there for that person afterwards as well? It's not just when it suits you that you're there for the person. Obviously, it's not take, take, take. The giving is essential, give and take. So if you make, if you hassle them from phoning them, then you're supposed to answer the call. Obviously, that was like a little it's a joke. It's a joke, yeah, but how many people are really like that? Then? Yes, that's it. It's when it's convenient, yes.
Speaker 1:But then I think you kind of suss those people out, don't you? Yeah, you know they're not like your true people. Yeah, but I think sometimes when it's crazy in love, you can be fooled a bit by it, because you get like the dopamine fixes, yes, you get like hooked onto it, don't you? Yes, you do. And then you get like completely involved in the situation. It's like a drug almost. Yes, yes, you're like addicted. You're addicted to it. Yes, you're addicted to these highs and lows you get, yeah, because when the low comes, but you know the high is going to be coming soon after, yeah, and then the low is also all the drama.
Speaker 1:And then you talk about all your friends yeah, and I've broken up, and blah, blah, blah. And yes, there's, and then you get a lot of sympathy from people, a lot of attention, and then you might go back and search for that again without even realizing what you're doing, because you've had a lot of secondary gains from the loss as well, that you haven't been aware of, you're probably not aware of consciously. So, yeah, that can be. This is kind of a trap that some of us can fall into without realizing it. Yeah, because you fall in love and then you, then you, then you break up and then you think, okay, I'll go back again now whether, as you know, the truth is that you this, there is work to be put into relationships, a lot of work, yes, and it's not, it's not easy. So it's up to you whether you really want to, obviously, if it's somebody worth investing, investing in in all sense of, in every sense, if it's somebody that you discovered, somebody that you somehow came to meet, and you find that they're, they're worth it, then it's being tolerant as well and patient, isn't it? Yes, then it's time to put it all together and think no, I'm going to work at this and ask for what you want as well, because a lot of people don't even know what they, what they want or what your partner wants. They don't know, you don't know. You don't know anything. You're not.
Speaker 1:We're not all born knowing what it's like and knowing what that person. We're never in anyone else's head, we're always only in our head. When we start learning to see people and get out of our own heads, that's, that's already a big deal. When you see other people, you see their body language, what they're going through, you can start to get out of your own head and understand them a little bit more. That's when you can, because some people might say, well, yeah, it's okay, but I'm the one always has to make the effort to understand them. It's always me that has to make the effort to understand. You know, they can be tired of this. Why does it always have to be me to do it? Because you're the one that's actually realizing. You're the one that's that has developed this conscious awareness, and everyone else is still they're, unconsciously, they're not, they're not aware of what they're doing. They don't know. You have developed some kind of awareness. Your, your, your task could be that of helping them develop some kind of awareness and and try and help them, you know, to teach what you've learned. That's cementing what you know it is.
Speaker 1:It is a tricky one. It is something sometimes you can't feel a lot of the time in relationships, women can feel that more because we've been conditioned to be more know, to be sympathetic towards them and to be understanding and to be all these things. I think you know women and anybody really. They just have to learn how to ask. You know so. If so, yes, sometimes they don't. I mean, yes, they're not very empathetic. It isn't. Especially like a man of my husband's generation. It wasn't a given to communicate like this. He's learnt a hell of a lot. You know now how to express his feelings. But no, it was not a given. You're absolutely right. No, it wasn't. So it's something that you have to learn. You learn it to learn together and grow together, more together. Yes, you have to learn together. You have to learn to understand.
Speaker 1:You know things that people do and they, they, we all give out these really obvious signs. I mean, if you see that you're talking to somebody that were your, your partner, and they've just come through the door and they're looking away or they're kicking their shoes off and they're not giving you that attention. You know, chill, you take time to chill as well, because that's probably not a good time. You know, you have to learn how to read the room, don't you? Yeah, and if you do know how to read the room, I think a lot of us can lose respect for our partners. Yes, because we don't read the room, we just want what's in our heads. Yeah, you're right, we don't. We lose respect as if it's a colleague or someone that we would have more respect for. Yes, you've hit it on the net.
Speaker 1:I think one of the reasons why we do have these marriages that have survived the test of time because we can both say it 37 years I've been together and you, well, I've been together since I was 19 years. Yeah, I'm married since ages. Yeah, it's been over 30 years, yes, so it's been a hell of a long time. And the reason why I think, if this is anything we can share, is that kind of like my husband has. I always see him like somebody like what you've just said, somebody that I'm still very respectful towards. It's not just, oh, it's just Georgia. It's not just an extension of me no, no, it's, it's Georgia.
Speaker 1:I mean, I always think how lucky I am. I mean, I'm like you know I always Tonight he was snoring his head off and I couldn't sleep because it was really hot here. But I was just thinking, thank goodness, I'm hearing that snoring. I know you're, you're not going back to that. He's alive again, are you? I do. I think of it all the time. I can't help it. I'm just happy, not that he's alive, he's 10 years older than you, but, come on, it's not just because, it's not just because he's a lot. Listen, yeah, yeah, I know he is healthier than me. It's not because of that, it's just because I was thinking I'm lucky to have him here. Yeah, I just I, just I. You know, I don't take it for granted. No, I have never taken it for granted, and I think that's one of the big secrets, yeah, is that it's always like the other morning I was busy, I was getting the breakfast ready and he was busy and we were both moving around and then I thought, okay, now I'm gonna say good morning to him and he's going to come in and say good morning. And then we did. We both said good morning and it's always a big smile.
Speaker 1:I mean, and I've seen a lot of couples stop doing things like this. You know, it's always like oh, it's like what you said. You would treat a friend, a colleague, somebody else, not just your husband or your wife or your partner. You've been together for ages and you're not. There's always. There's always that respect.
Speaker 1:I think, yes, as if they're not, they're not you, as if they're not you, and as if you don't even know them. You know that well, it's not like you know them so well. You can. Uh, I mean, I don't even like going to the bathroom with him. No, I don't, things like that. I think you know these kind of. That's a personal preference, but some people can find that very intimate, can't they? Yeah, some people can. You know there's a whole debate. Do you go to, do you? You know I don't. We can brush our teeth together. That's about it. I don't, I don't even do that. I'm not interested. You're not. We've got a bathroom that has two sinks, but we don't, we just use it separately. Yeah, so I don't. No, I think. I think that could be.
Speaker 1:If anything it could be a secret, you know is that to always remember they're not you and there're somebody else. And imagine they were. You know, imagine that there's somebody that's super special because they are, and just remember that. You can take it as an extension of yourself, as a thing. I don't even really understand that even treat ourselves that well sometimes that's what I mean. It's terrible. We feel as if we can treat our partners like that sometimes. So the best thing is to imagine them to be like super you're, like somebody that you don't know that well. You know them, but you have to be respectful and you always have to say thank you and please, and it's polite and respectful.
Speaker 1:You don't take things for granted. You don't think, oh, they're going to do that because they're, because they're my partner, just because they've done it once, it doesn't mean they have to do it forever. Like my husband, he goes to the supermarket. Just because he goes to the supermarket once, it doesn't mean he always has to go to the supermarket. He's a bit overwhelmed by it. I said you want me to come? He usually says no because he wants to go on his own. He wants to do it quickly and efficiently and if you go, you'll probably spend. He appreciates it, though he does appreciate it if I say I'll come and help. Yeah, yeah, and I appreciate all the things that he does for us a lot as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a lot about being appreciative and not thankful and appreciative and not taking everything for granted that you do for each other, because I'm sure there's so many of us that do so much for for our partners. Yeah, but also, you should be looking for your partner doesn't take you for granted as well, and if he does or she does take you for granted, maybe you should ask yourself what am I doing to allow them to do that? Yes, with such little respect, yeah, perhaps you know it's time for you to step up and say you know, no, I deserve more and I, I, I need you to do this and that and you know, to be more respectful towards me and to see how that works out, because there's something you're doing as well to allow that behavior. It's always a two-way thing. Yeah, definitely. Well, let us know if you're crazy enough or if you prefer the more stable, loving, kind love. That's just very reassuring, just makes you smile inside, but it's not up and down jumping and screaming Screaming, yeah, and you know drama and crying and super, super, super duper, because I think there has been a lot of.
Speaker 1:You know, people do think that that's a real love, don't they? The crazy love is a real love. Yes, is a real. Yes. Yeah, we've been taught sort of like the film love, the really cute, cutesy meat. Yes, let us know. We're going to be pondering this with a cup of tea when we finish. Yes, yes, definitely, and please do leave a review wherever you get your podcasts and you can text us as well and just come and say hi on instagram. Come and say hi, yes, and um, I get real with the english sisters, absolutely, and love you. Lots, lots of love and smiles from the english sisters. Bye.
