Get Real With The English Sisters - Mind Health Anxiety
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Get Real With The English Sisters - Mind Health Anxiety
Unleashing the Superhero Within: Understanding and Overcoming Your Personal Kryptonite
Are you ready to unearth the superhero within you? You're about to embark on an enlightening journey as we illuminate the behavioral patterns that restrain us from unlocking our full potential. We've all got our kryptonite - those deeply embedded vulnerabilities and weaknesses that we've carried from childhood. These could manifest as relationship issues, fear of failure, procrastination, or overeating.
This episode peels back the layers on our personal vulnerabilities - our kryptonite - and how it can sometimes trip us up in our relationships and day-to-day lives. It’s all about identifying these potential weak spots and taking action to overcome them. We'll chat about the impact of power dynamics in relationships, and how you can navigate these challenges through self-awareness. With an understanding of how these powerful habits form and how they can limit us, you'll be equipped with the tools to break free and fully embrace your potential. So, tune in, get comfortable, and prepare to unleash the superhero within you.
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What's your kryptonite? Yeah, by the end of this episode, you will learn how to have your own special superhero suit to protect yourself, just like Superman. Yeah, with his lead suit to protect yourself from the kryptonite. So listen to Get Real with the English Sisters. Thank you for your support. We had our 75th episode and we're so happy we actually went out to celebrate this morning. Yes, it was amazing. So thank you all for your support for following us on Apple Podcast and wherever you get your downloads. Yeah, we really do appreciate it.
Speaker 1:So let's get right into this then. I mean Superman, yeah, I love that movie. I'm curious about the little rock that was the kryptonite, and you know what? The interesting fact is? That kryptonite actually comes from Superman's original planet. I know it's weird. It's like from within yourself, isn't it? It is a bit. It's a metaphor for that. Well, it could be a metaphor for that. Yeah, so it's like the very thing that comes from your own planet. You know, can you know? Obviously, I think in the film it was exposed to some kind of radiation or something that turned it. You know, turned it bad. I can't remember it now, but, yeah, and so you know from it, from within ourselves, we can have these kind of mental blocks that can cause us to have, like our own kryptonite, our own weaknesses. Yeah, that can really affect us.
Speaker 1:It was funny because the other day my son said to me mum, that's your kryptonite I can watch you talking about. And it was because I don't like going out around five o'clock. Yes, I do know that In the afternoon, just when it's tea time, unless I'm already out, but if I'm at home, I don't like. I don't like planning my days. If I'm working from home, I don't like planning my day and going out of five and sometimes, obviously, you have to and that's the way it's going oh no, I don't want to go out. And so my son said that's your kryptonite, mum. Yeah, it did make us think about it. Yeah, and then it made us have the episode you know idea for this podcast, because it is quite funny. But in the end, yeah, it's true though, isn't it? Because I always feel I can't feel as strong at that time of day. I like to be out in the morning or in the evening. Yeah, because I suppose it's, because it's what we're used to.
Speaker 1:It's just patterns of behaviour. So is the kryptonite? Also, is it a bit tricky, can it be a bit sneaky? Can it also be what you're used to? So it's your own patterns of behaviour that you're not aware of, but that's actually causing your weakness, your pattern of behaviour? Yeah, yeah, I know what you mean.
Speaker 1:Like just because it's it's a habit. So it's just become something that you pose your own limitations on. So you think I'm not used to going out at that hour it's either before or after. So you form this kind of habit and you're familiar with that and you don't want to break it. So by breaking it, it makes you feel vulnerable, feel vulnerable, feel weak, and you don't want to do that. So, yeah, that is something I think we can become aware of. You know, why are we particularly weak and kind of feel that we don't have our normal power? Is it just out of habit? That is an interesting.
Speaker 1:Not just out of habit, but I think out of habit is the like, the one that you probably wouldn't think of as kryptonite. What's that? It's like the unusual one. Yeah, it's like the black sheep in the thing, if you can get my meaning. No, because normally your kryptonite would be like something, say something you don't like doing, wouldn't it? But not because you're not. I don't know if, if that's like what I was meaning by kryptonite. I mean, I think it could like.
Speaker 1:Your kryptonite could be issues handling money, relationship problems, a fear of failure, past regrets, overeating, for example. That could be your kryptonite. Or just procrastination, like what we've said many, many times. That could be like Like chocolate. We once had that client oh yes, that was her kryptonite. Yeah, as soon as she would see chocolate, she couldn't stop eating. Yes, that was like her big weakness. So you know, having this kind of, these kind of issues can really stop you leading your best life.
Speaker 1:But I think that once, as usual, you become aware of what your kryptonite is, it's all about. When it's Like, for example, yours is just this it's not. It doesn't really affect your life that much, but maybe it does in a more subtle way. Of course it affects it because it Well, it doesn't affect me now because I'm aware of it, especially since my son pointed it out and I'm not going to let it beat me. So I will plan things at five o'clock.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's weird, isn't it? Just five o'clock? And I was thinking why five o'clock? And I was thinking probably because when we were little, five o'clock was bedtime, everything. Bedtime at work, well, more or less. Yeah, when we were tiny I'm about six, that was a long time ago Do you remember we used to do this in our bed, which was a front room there, because we we could have a proper bedroom, no, and we would go into the little front room and play our little games, and it was five o'clock and I remember it still being like.
Speaker 1:I thought five o'clock was like tea time, not when we were young, no, not when we were little, no, not when we were Well, it was like supper time, really, gosh, yeah, when we were really little. Back in the day, yes, it was after school. Well, we didn't go to school. Preschool, oh, is that when you're talking about? Right? And then I remember, like after like six o'clock, do you think the habit has formed from such a long time ago? I don't know, but I mean this is a bit fickle, this one, yeah, it's fickle. We're talking about a bit of a laugh. It's a laugh. Yeah, it's not really. Exactly, it's not really. You have to try.
Speaker 1:And and my real kryptonite which is not really Well, it is my weakness would be driving at night, same as yours, yeah, but I think there's a real reason to this, because we can't see properly. Yeah, no, I feel like I really can't see properly. It's funny that after we did all our studies we could see. Okay. I mean, now I can't because I've had the retinal discharge, but before it was a bit of a mental block. Yeah, you're right, but it's also realistic because we live in the country, but it's also habit.
Speaker 1:It's habit, though. It's habit, you're right, because if you have to drive at night every day for work or something If I had to for work I would just have to get used to it and drive slowly. When we had the conference in Pisa, we just drove at night and we were surprised to say, well, we were struggling a lot, yeah, but we did it. We did it and we overcame that. And it was like we overcame many things. We did not let yeah, we did not let the kryptonite within us affect us.
Speaker 1:But yeah, if you think about what your kryptonite is, you'd be surprised to find that once you know what it is, you really can have it no longer disarms you. You can have the lead suit. Yes, you can have the lead suit and you can think okay, I can just imagine putting my lead suit on now and you can have that, that barrier of protection, and get all your powers back. And your kryptonite could be somebody in a relationship, for example. It could be a member of your family. It could be that you just feel particularly vulnerable or weak around. It could be somebody at work. You've got to try. I mean, ours is like Violetta was talking about particular time in the day, but it could be something else that you could think, okay, okay, that's my kryptonite. Yeah, I figured it out. I bet you, anyone listening to this knows what their kryptonite is.
Speaker 1:I'm just thinking that some people's kryptonite would be alcohol. Well, yes, it's more or less the same as over-eating yes, over-drinking, exactly. And so, knowing that we're like talking about an addiction here, but knowing how to protect yourself, even be at levels of addiction I'm not talking about alcoholism, I'm talking about you might just have one too many too often and make you feel weak, and it makes you feel weak and vulnerable and you might get into tricky situations because of it afterwards, or into situations that you might not have really wanted to be in, and so they cause regret, a lot of regret, yeah. So, yeah, I think once you're aware of it. You can put your led suit on and you can get you know, you can imagine superhero within you and I bet you it will work, because it's worked on us and we've done it. You can say no to things, can't you? When you've got your led suit on, when you've got more protection, you can definitely say no, say no or say yes. Yeah, I mean, here it's.
Speaker 1:I was reading about kryptonite and it said this it can also be something that would make you particularly susceptible to sickness, so we could also think of it as something like within our health. What is your kryptonite? Yeah, what? Like my son, for example, he can't have air conditioning. If he goes near air conditioning in the car or you know, if it's quite strong, he'll immediately get like a terrible throat ache, yeah, yeah, sore throat Because he was born premature. Do you think? I have no idea, but that could be like his kryptonite. I mean, you know, I always tell him and you get headaches, don't you? And I used to get a lot of migraines in that when I was stressed. Yeah, definitely, I don't know anymore, but I used to. Yeah, so that would have been my kryptonite the migraines. Yeah, my older son suffers from migraines. Definitely, yeah, I actually asked him today what's your kryptonite? He said migraines, because that's something that are immediately.
Speaker 1:It's amazing how your body, like your body, will take, take on what you can't deal with mentally and, you know, become a physical thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and you know, kryptonite is is within the Superman film and the cartoon and everything. It was so potentially dangerous that it could actually, you know, kill them and it caused excruciating pain. So it's something I think we can all relate to. We know what that thing is, that, especially if it's an important issue, that does cause us emotional pain and it could be something that might not be really painful, but it's just niggling at us every day, that it makes you kind of feel a bit sick in your stomach, like you know what it is. I'm saying that's the most dangerous, isn't it? Yeah, because it's continuous.
Speaker 1:It's not, yes, not just the one off thing. Exactly. It's like you enter the workspace and you see that person and all of a sudden it's like the Greenstone and you really, you know, are suggesting this. You're completely disarmed, aren't you? That's it. Whether it's before you might have felt quite okay, you know, your base kind of feeling was normal and that, but then you kind of get that niggly thing and what happens is you're the person can unconsciously detect that you're feeling that way and may start like even like Hacking up even more. I think, well, yeah, it's a bit like blackmailing, you know, emotional kind of. I want to discuss that in another podcast but yes, it's kind of it's a play of power. It's a power play, it's a trigger, isn't it? They can sense the weakness.
Speaker 1:It's like when you say, you know, say with animals, exactly, don't let the animal, don't let the dog know that you're scared, exactly. Yeah, well, that's what our mum used to say, jim, and when we were really little Once again, we're always talking about that but yeah, she would say don't let the dog know that you're so scared, just continue walking, don't run, and be calm and stay collected and you'll be fine. Because in those days along our little streets there was lots of dogs. They were so many and they did not have leashes on them because, yeah, in the light, in the light this used to let them out Late 70s, early 80s yeah, they would just be out on the road, the dogs, you know. So we were scared of them, because when you're not very tall, even a medium-sized dog seems a bit of a threat and and, anyway, even a little dog I used to be.
Speaker 1:When I was at uni, I was being terrified of a little dog. It would be so ferocious every time I'd walk past him. He was inside a little garden but the the fence was very low and they the loud noise he or she could have gotten out Exactly. Yeah, so I was scared. Also because we didn't grow up with dogs. No, we didn't know much about them. Then now, later on, as adults, we've had dogs and we love them dearly and we've learned a lot about their behavior and and how to and how they communicate with us. Yeah, so they're kind of communication. But in that, yeah, we did not know about dogs and so, yeah, they were like a a bit of a mystery, weren't they? They were a bit of a mystery and, yeah, I've lost my train of thought because you're thinking of Otto, probably my dog, your little doggy. Yeah, he's adorable, he'll bark when he's frightened. Yeah, so once, if you don't know how they communicate, you can be more scared of them.
Speaker 1:So if you do see somebody that is your kryptonite, it could be just a question that you're not understanding their communication as well. Yeah, it could be Like us with dogs when we were young. It could be that, or they could be aggressive, be a bit aggressive and you might make you feel weak and vulnerable and disarmed. So take a moment, you know, take a moment. If you can step outside somewhere else, move away from them physically just for a little second, if you can. Otherwise, you can just just blink for a second. They won't even notice it. You put your special lead suit on in your imagination. Just visualise it, you know, take a deep breath, take a deep breath, put the suit on and send to yourself and then you come back. This could just take like 10 seconds, super, super, and you come back with all your superpowers and you can then, you know, be ready, fully armed, in a way to deal with whatever's gonna come to you, whatever that person may say to you, and it won't make you feel vulnerable.
Speaker 1:I wish I'd learned this when I was younger, because every time I would be faced with authority, you know, I was frightened. I was really frightened of it and that would be my kryptonite. I would just be so terrified of it, like if I was ever called in when I used to be an air hostess and they would call me in to the you know the offices and I would be like you know that I would feel so vulnerable and so weak within me. I wish I'd known about this superpower. I think it was a lack of confidence as well, or of fear. I was frightened of authority. Authority was my kryptonite.
Speaker 1:I think it was because our parents were were immigrants, like what you said, and mum had escaped from Franco, from the Civil War in Spain. It was after the Civil War, when they had the right wing dictatorship. She managed to get out when Franco was a bit more lenient and he let her out Not just her. He said people could emigrate Really. Yeah, I didn't actually realise that. She came to London and then died as well.
Speaker 1:He was a Hungarian refugee. So it's like what we said when we, when we went back to Hungary, even afterwards, when he had a British passport and everything, how terrified he still was. They weren't gonna let him out. So do you think this is all connected to our fear of authority in a way like the government? Authority was bad. It wasn't there to help you. It was a bad authority. Never thought about it like that. Well, they grew up. They were in countries they had to escape from authority. It wasn't like the authority was protecting them like you'd expect it to. No, yeah, you're right. And then at school as well, authority wasn't always very good, especially, no, for me. I didn't. Yeah, I did not. Anyway, yeah, so that could be. If I'd known about that, I would have really been able to, you know.
Speaker 1:So I hope any one of you doesn't matter whatever age you are, you know you really do get this message. You can really change your state of mind so quickly. Please do not underestimate this. It can really change your life. If you do learn to metaphorically put that lead suit on, you will be protected. You can face the kryptonite, you can face your fears and you can come out stronger from it. Well, you'll always be stronger.
Speaker 1:Once you face your fears, you will yes, and it doesn't have to make you feel sick or vulnerable or frightened and obviously do things you know, ecological and sensible, because obviously, if you're you know you can't, you have to be reasonable as well. If you're like what our father was, you can't. You can't go and you know against the whole regime or something and be you know, do something defiant that's going to get you into trouble? You can, but you have to think about the consequences. Yeah, I know what you mean, yes, but I wasn't actually talking about those extreme situations.
Speaker 1:There are many people that are in these extreme situations as well, and then sometimes you have to put your lead suit on and be, stay calm, and stay calm and and, and think about protecting yourself. Yes, please do. Yes, put the lead suit on, but use your inner power to stay strong and, you know, do what's best for you, be brave, but be wise about it. Be careful. If you are in a situation where you think you know your kryptonite could be yeah, because I'm thinking as well some, some women, some women and they can get themselves into difficult situations now when they're dating, and into quite dangerous oh, in those kind of relationships. Yeah, I'm just thinking about that now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you've just come to mind and you can maybe go to someone's house and be in a really tricky situation because that is like your kryptonite you may be, want affirmation, you want confirmation that you're loved, and you might get yourself into a difficult situation that you wouldn't really want to be in. So then, you know, our advice is to you know, stay calm and you know, get out of there quietly and quickly as well as you can. So, so I don't really understand what you, what, what do you mean? I'm thinking like that. Sometimes we're in, especially in the dating game. Now it's so quick and furious. Okay, you might go on a date and then, let's say, not want to have like a sexual relationship. I'm sexual in a relationship with you and you might don't want. This isn't right, I'm not ready for this, I don't want this. But you might already be in that person's house, whether you're male, female or that. You might be there and you might feel Pressurized, pressurized and no, no, but it could even turn out to be violent, like we heard. Yeah, we had so many cases like this. So just keep calm, put your, put your lead suit on and and think of a way Cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, Cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly, cleverly.
Speaker 1:Your beautiful and that they desire you. That could be your weakness. You may have a strong desire for attention, for love, for somebody to look at you in a particular way, and, yes, that can be very tricky Also, not just like on one off you, but you can also get into tricky situations by dating a person and going in too quick and too fast, like committing them to them too quickly Because of your desire for a 10 year love, six months, saying that you love that person too quickly without actually fully like understanding who that person really is. You're just making someone up in your mind that you want that person to be kind of thing. Yeah, you're romanticizing the, the person in your mind. So that could be your kryptonite.
Speaker 1:Your kryptonite could be I want to get you know. You're too much of a romantic in a way. Yeah, too much. Yeah, you have to watch out for that as well. That's actually quite common, very common. Yeah, watch out for that too. Yeah, that is common. I hadn't actually thought of it like that.
Speaker 1:I know that kryptonite can be like for some people. It could be, you know, even somebody they they dearly love. You know it could be like a mother figure. That could be. You know, every time they come and they see their parents and mom, whoever it is, you know that it's like makes them feel vulnerable, makes them feel weak, because they could have received criticism and constant judgment from, from mom or dad or whatever. So, yeah, with son, sometimes it's a father figure, it is, it is.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I think, if you're aware of it, you put your suit on and you've got that. You know what to do, don't you? You know how to do the next step. You won't be in that vulnerable situation. Because the thing is that once you are in the vulnerable situation, it's going to get you the kryptonite, it's going to make you feel weak. But if you already know about it in advance, you can be prepared, you're aware of it, you can avoid it. You suit up, don't you? You literally suit up, you've got your protection with you, your inner mental protection, or you can choose as well, just to avoid that situation as well. Exactly, you can say well, at the moment I'm not going to go and see that For me, the final cut thing is a kryptonite and I've decided that I will suit up for that and I will go and do things at five.
Speaker 1:Yes, especially now, and not make a big deal about it. Yeah, depending on the weather as well. Yes, not make a big deal about it, but if for you, for me, that would be a good thing, I think, for my mental health. Well, yeah, that's a bit of a block, isn't it? It's a bit of a habit. It's a habit, it's a block. So I can get rid of that. You can say goodbye to that block. You can say goodbye to that block, but if it's something that's going to be harmful or dangerous to you and it's not going to be beneficial to you, you can just maybe avoid that situation altogether.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. Knowing that it's your kryptonite. Knowing, yes, knowing exactly, knowing Knowledge is power. Knowledge is power. Awareness is power. Self-awareness is power. Total power, total power. That's super power, that's a super power, super power, yeah, the superhero within you. So let us know what your kryptonite is and if you enjoy this episode. So please do come and follow us on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcast for free, and please do leave a review as well, because they really help others find us. Find us, yeah, absolutely. And come and watch us on YouTube too. Come and say hi. Lots of love and smiles from the English sisters, thanks.
