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Not every day is good, but there is something good in every day. That's what we're going to be talking about in this week's episode of Get Real With the English Sisters. Please remember to follow us on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcast. It really makes a difference, it really does. So hit that subscribe button and help us produce more of these podcasts, because we're really excited to make them and we do love sharing them. And come and watch us on YouTube, too, where you can see the video version.
Speaker 1:Anyway, let's get into something good in every day. I think that the other words that would have to go in there is if you're willing to look for it, if you're willing to look for it, if you have, like, the right mindset to look for it, because if you start saying there were what was good about today, if you had a really bad day, for example, and you start thinking about that, then you're gonna. What's gonna happen is that your mind you know our brain deletes a lot of the stuff throughout our day. I was gonna say, if you're willing to notice it as well, yeah, if you're willing to notice it absolutely, but as you go through your day, if you're willing to be like an observer and notice the good things. Oh, that's brilliant. If you're in that mindset, it'll be different. I think it would be difficult even to have a bad day. If you get up with the willingness sorry, if you get up with a willingness and the the mindset to think, okay, I will notice something good in my day today, I'll start noticing the good things and I think it's gonna be pretty difficult to have a bad day, isn't it? Well, I think it'll be difficult to have a completely bad day. Yeah, there'll be bad moments, stuff in the day, which you probably won't want to do, it'll happen. The complete day will be harder.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what I do find a lot is that if you do suffer from anxiety, what you can tend to do is to stuff the whole day and just say that was a bad day. You know, you just like label it as a bad day. Something might not have happened. That you. It's something like bad. I mean you could have even get stung by a wasp, for example. That happened to me, that happened to you, and I mean, did it ruin your entire day? Luckily, you're not. I mean, you are quite allergic. You're not life-threatening allergic to a wasp. No, I'm not life-threatening, but it was pretty nasty. It was pretty nasty, but you still managed to do all the things in that day. Yeah, I wouldn't have classified it as a bad day just because I got stung by a wasp, even though it did get pretty bad and I had to have cortisol. Cortisol, yeah, you did. Actually it was. It's just that, yeah, I mean people are reading into that you got stung by a wasp. Yeah, well, that's not a bad day. It was a bad day when I got. You know, I got stung by a job or something, yeah, or had run over.
Speaker 1:Are we coming into the same topic, the same area, as if there's always a silver lining, or is it slightly different? I think it's slightly different. There's always a silver lining in everything that happens. Now it's different. No, I think this is different. Yeah, I mean it's kind of the same gist, isn't it? I mean this, this is, it's got the same kind of philosophy behind it, but I think the actual idea of this phrase is by that American author, isn't it? Yeah, it's by Alice Morse Earle. I don't know if I'm saying it right. She's an American historian and author of many, many years ago, 1800, and she'd already sussed this out.
Speaker 1:Not every day is good, but there is something good in every day, kind of like a little mantra. A little mantra that if you say it to yourself, you can like say, yeah, there is something good in every day, and that could be just taking a warm shower, yeah, yeah, very simple things. That, even though maybe not every day is good, I think because it gets away from thinking, yeah, every day is good, it gets away from that perfectionism, doesn't it, that every day has to be amazing and nothing bad can happen. Who says that? I mean most people. I don't. Every day has to be amazing. I don't, really, I think most people don't think that every day has to be amazing. Maybe that's kind of like what we want, like what we think, and we make it amazing because we do things, even very tiny things. The fact that we appreciate them so much can make it. It comes down to mindfulness. Yeah, can make it amazing.
Speaker 1:But I think most people just especially if we're talking about like normal days, when the judgeery you mean, yeah, it's not a holiday or anything particular, just a normal day, even though holidays can be pretty stressful as well, we know that, but just normal in and out, going to work or doing whatever you're doing normally, you might think, yeah, what's good in today? And how can you find that good? It starts off with the mindset. It starts off with the mindset of just being in the now and like not chunking the whole day together for a start, that's it, yeah. So one bad thing happens and oh, it's going to be a bad day. So then it becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Exactly, yeah, that does tend to happen a lot.
Speaker 1:You miss a train, you miss a bus. Oh god, what a bad day. It is Happened with me too. You don't know. You have a meeting, you get there late, things aren't going exactly as planned and you think, what the hell? You know, this is a bad day.
Speaker 1:And then, since your brain is focusing on the fact that your kind of days didn't start off well, then all you're doing is making, you're missing. You're deleting all those little tiny good things that are happening throughout that day, because they do happen. They do happen, but you're deleting it Because your brain is obeying what you basically hypnotize yourself to say, the command you said I am having a bad day. Thus your brain and your mind will make sure that the rest of the day you'll notice all things that aren't nice are bad. That's how it works, isn't it? It does. It's very it's creepy that way. It's really creepy. It's really creepy.
Speaker 1:If you really believe this and this is how your brain works, you would really try not to have any of these thoughts throughout your day, because they're not even half of the month, even real. It's just like worry or anxiety and building up on, you know, putting one thing on top of another, really Stacking, chunking together All of it, all of it, all the anxiety that just I mean there is no need for that, there is no need. There is no need. You can think okay, one thing that didn't go right has happened today, two things that didn't go right. There might be traffic, I don't know.
Speaker 1:Whatever it is, we're not talking about really bad things, but even then, sometimes it is bad. What you consider bad things and the diagnosis of an illness, an illness you might have to go in, there's not well, these can. All these things can get you down and make you feel, oh no, this is a terrible day today. These things are stealing your moment, good and bad in every day. That sounds like a song. If we could sing, we would burst into song Bad in every day, but we can't, we're not breaking it. I'm gonna try and learn. That would be the day. That would be the day, yeah, anyway, yeah, you can. You're right about that. Yeah, even when things are not going well, you can look around you and be willing to notice something good. It can really really dramatically help reduce your anxiety.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it can just be a little joke, can it? It can be humor. You can think when something horrible happens, you can have it. You can see the funny side of it. You can think this is, this is gonna be hilarious. Yeah, this will be a story to tell in the future. So let me enjoy it now, like after 10 minutes later, after it's happened. Yeah, I'm gonna have something without waiting for the future again. Yeah, let me, let me try and see the funny side of it right now. Let me try and see the funny side of it, of what is gonna be like in 10 years time when I tell this story. Story exactly, yes, so project yourself in the future instead of in the now, in that time when you're all healed or whatever. Yeah, whatever's happened. Yeah, whatever's happened for you. So, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:I'm listening to the DiRosio and he was talking about AI and how it's gonna overtake the world artificial intelligence and how it's gonna. The one side is gonna make our lives better, but on the other hand, it could be really damaging and like it can be used in a really damaging way, and I think that's a little bit like our own brain. We can use it to our advantage or we can use it just to create anxiety and stress and damage our own well-being just because of the stuff that we're saying to ourselves. It's, it's HI. Isn't it human intelligence instead of AI? It's HI. So HI is very similar to AI. It depends what you program in it, and whatever you program in, then it's gonna spit it out, it's gonna come out. And it comes out and it's gonna manifest inside the whole of your body.
Speaker 1:So if you are putting in oh it's a bad day, miss this, miss that everything, let's see what else is gonna happen. That's not gonna be good today for me then your HI, your human intelligence, is gonna find ways to make that happen, and it will. It will because it's extremely powerful. It's an extremely powerful tool, same as HI. Ai will be in the future and already is today.
Speaker 1:It will say, like I said, if you're having a bad day, it'll stop you, for instance, doing your training or you're going for a walk, oh, absolutely. Or your own brain will say, no, it's a bad day, I'm not doing that, I'm not gonna, I'm gonna eat unhealthily because I'm not doing that. Sabotage, sabotage. You'll be sabotaging, but when you, if you, if it's a bad day, okay, it's a bad day, but there's gonna be so many good moments in the day. Look for the joy in every day. You will find that your bad way was actually a good day too. Yeah, your human intelligence will find ways. We'll start noticing, observing, like what you said right at the very beginning, will observe the good stuff, the things that give you a moment of pleasure, of joy a touch, a cuddle, a hug, whatever it is, even if it's not physical touch, gratitude, ray of sunshine, a cloud, a drop of rain, millions of things out there to make you feel back in the moment and and grateful again. Even a bug, a bug, amazing, bug, amazing. Even a wasp, a bee. Where would we be without the bees? Exactly, we didn't ever. We've just said that together. We've never said that before, but it is funny. Where would we be without the bees, really? I mean, where would our ecosystem be on this planet without the bees? Goodness me.
Speaker 1:My son was telling me about this that the man of war I think it is. It's a bit looks a bit like an octopus, but it's actually. It's actually not one being. It's made up of many. What is it? It's like a kind of autopsy thing. What is it? Man of war? Man of war, it lives in the sea. Oh no, it's called Portuguese man of war. That sounds great and it's what I have to do with Portugal. Apparently it lives under the ocean and it can sting you really bad and it's known to have killed humans sometimes, but very rarely. Basically, it kills. It kills a fish it eats. But the thing is it's not. It's called an nifesaur or something. I can't remember the word, it's so complicated. Okay, but if you want to look it up Portuguese man of war and it's actually made up, it's not one, it's not like one entity, it's made up of different things that collaborate together. So if you think it can be the closest thing to aliens, it's been around for centuries, millions of years Well, it's like.
Speaker 1:It's like the cow that's got the bird on it, that picks off the bugs and stuff the bird and the they, they work together, but this isn't actually one thing. It's like oh, that's the same, the bird and the cat. No, no, the bird individually is what? One thing If you look at it down and eat off something else. It just uses a cat to eat off the cat. Yeah, this cannot live on its own. It's all together. It's like a bit like the cloud, I suppose, like artificial intelligence. I've never heard of this creature before. Yeah, there's not just that one creature, there's other creatures like it in the universe. I mean, if you look at that man, wow, I can say exactly what it is because it was. It's pretty mind blowing how it's not just one thing, it's like it collaborates together, but it cannot live as an individual Like man of war.
Speaker 1:Is that what you have to do? Man of war Portuguese I've never heard of that before. Oh my God. Yes, it's amazing, because the Portuguese man oh war, oh war.
Speaker 1:Fissalia fissalis no wonder you can say it also known as a man of war is a marine hydrozoan found in the Atlantic ocean and Indian ocean. It is considered to be the same species as a Pacific man or war or blue bottle, which is found mainly in the Pacific coast. But read about where it says it's an entity. It's a highly venomous open ocean predator that superficially resembles a jellyfish, but it's actually a I don't know how to say that Siphanofofo. That's it, this is it. That's it. It's an actual siphanofo.
Speaker 1:Each man of war is actually a colony of several small individual organisms that each have specialized job and are so closely intertwined that they cannot survive alone. Oh, that sounds a bit like it's a colony of individuals that cannot survive. One reproduces, the other one eats, the other one does this, but together they form like this, one unit. That's pretty amazing. That's amazing. The colony, each thing cannot survive on its own, but together they form this like beast. I wonder what they call it a man of war, because it must be pretty anywhere else in the world.
Speaker 1:I'm going to go back and have a look at that. Go down that rabbit hole now, yeah. But what I'm saying is why am I saying I can't even remember what? I've lost my train of thought now? There's good in everything, I suppose. Well, no, we were saying that there's so much to marvel about and so much to be grateful about and so much to learn every day. So much to learn. I have no idea about this. They've got thin tendrils that can extend. Yes, that's enough now, okay, okay, yeah, I'm gonna go on to mad research about this Now.
Speaker 1:I'm interested in the fact that it's like they're all intertwined. So it's been like humans, isn't it? As a species? But we can survive alone without, even though we don't do a very good job. We don't do a good job, but in theory, we could Not alone. Alone, I mean, we can't reproduce alone. We can't, yeah, no, but these, this thing, is like each like it has a mouth.
Speaker 1:Here that's one entity, then it has another one. Oh God, you're gonna give me nine minutes now. I think that's enough. I've already. That's enough. I don't know. You're like a little lady. Yeah, yeah, okay, right. So I think, if that's gonna, no, it's far away, under the sea. It's far away. Yeah, it lives deep down. So even when you go, I think they can come up. It's a marvel. Anyway, it's a marvel. Yeah, it's something you can learn every day. I mean, I knew about, I'd heard about these, but I didn't know that they were like entities that couldn't survive.
Speaker 1:But why did your son start talking about these? Because he's fascinated with nature and he just said how amazing it was Amazing. The ecosystem is, yeah, yeah, that's why it's okay from this universe that we live in, from the beast to the manna wall, because how amazing. I mean, if we just think about that for a second, it'll be mind-blowing, won't it? Yeah, exactly, I mean, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing. Yeah, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing. Yeah, I think one of the things that people are doing is we're from the end of the century and it will be mind-blowing, won't it? Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 1:And it puts stuff into perspective. I suppose it puts your day, your mind day, into perspective as you look at the bigger picture of the whole. Yeah, definitely, if they dare to look for it. Sometimes it's harder to look for the good than to just accept the bad, because very often you're in that, you're in your like mental rut of and look and having a bad day and kind of kind of comforting in a way. Yes, yeah, because it becomes that habit not really really bad day, I mean just like normal drudgy, drudgy, drudgy kind of days just like kind of become your routine and then if you have to actually make the effort to think, oh, now I have to look for something good, I mean you don't mean it becomes that hard work almost, but it's not because you can just literally, you know you, stop over for coffee or a drink or whatever you can enjoy, that it's very.
Speaker 1:We're talking about really simple things here. It's not, it's not really a big deal. Even the feeling of as you sit down, yeah, and your favorite chair or something you know. It can be very, very simple things. Just notice them. It can be even things like when I stopped off recently and like on the motorway and I went into the ladies toilets and there was like they were fake flowers, but there was flowers in the toilet and I thought this is really beautiful. And then I noticed that in the corner there was a shower. So I thought that's really nice to have a shower. People need to get a shower. It's quite nice. Yeah, I was really impressed. I mean that's a nice, good thing. That would happen just in an all day. That was, you know, quite tiring because we were traveling and that.
Speaker 1:But it's these, it's noticing and appreciating things. I think so, yeah, just tiny moments of appreciation and just noticing that someone else has, like, made an effort for you. And there's so many, so many people doing things for you as well that you may not realize Absolutely, because where would we be like without other humans? No, we're very intertwined. Yeah, we are. We need each other, we need each other. We need to help each other, hug each other and be kind to each other, and then there will be good in every day. There will be good in every day. There is good in every day. There is absolutely. Dare to look for it. Let us know what your thoughts are on this episode of Get Real With the English Sisters. Bye for now, bye. Please do check out our book Stress Free in Three Minutes, where there's a little story in it that will last take about three minutes to read and you can enjoy the relaxation that will bring you. See you soon. See you soon, bye, bye.
