How to Enjoy Life Mindfully: Lessons from Korean Love Stories

Have you ever noticed how time seems to pause during life's most beautiful moments? This week on "Get Real with The English Sisters" we draw inspiration from the enchanting cinematic world of Korean love stories, where a shared glance or lingering kiss unfolds in seemingly endless slow motion. Join us as we explore the art of slowing down and embracing the present in a fast-paced world. We share personal experiences of savoring life's simple joys, from a tranquil "passeggiata" - stroll through an Italian village to a stranger's smile that warms the heart.

Our conversation takes a cultural turn as we compare the storytelling styles of Korean films and the vibrant narratives of Bollywood. As hypnotherapists, we reflect on how these slowed-down moments feel akin to hypnosis, where time stretches and tranquility prevails. By stepping out of our heads and into the present, we discover how life can be enriched and transformed. Tune in to find out how embracing these serene moments can help you savor life's sweetness and discover tranquility in a chaotic world.

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Speaker 1: 0:00

I was watching a Korean love story and I noticed that the way it's filmed, everything was like slowed down, oh. So it was really interesting because I thought in this fast-paced world, you know, everything was like in slow, not slow motion, but they would like focus on a look or a kiss. Oh, I think it's a bit like the Bollywood films. They're like filmed different. They're filmed differently Depending on the culture. Instead of so fast-paced, everything like all the emotions were like you had time to like develop them and enjoy them, even though at first I thought, gosh, is it slow Really With all the music, and then they would like stare at each other for like what seemed like an eternity Really. But it made me think about in real life how these moments, like everything just slows down. Yeah, it's in certain times of your life when you kind of lose, you lose track of time, absolutely. So that's what we're going to be talking about in this week's episode of get real with the english sisters and yudka zugo. It's, I think it's a contradiction to. This fast-paced world. Is what we all need. I think you're right, but I think that's really what life is all about, isn't it? If you think about it like in a Korean love story kind of filter. Yes, life is kind of like that.

Speaker 1: 1:28

Yeah, you know, like last Sunday I was, I, we just went out for a passeggiata. You know, we're here in Italy and it was the grapevine uh, like a little festival in the little village passeggi village, was that? Passeggiata is just a little walk, you know, in in the grapevine. Uh, you know it's, it's a lovely, it's a lovely tradition, it's a stroll. Yeah, passeggiata is a stroll, yeah, and and we were just walking along and and yeah, I bought some typical products.

Speaker 1: 2:01

You know, we bought this lovely, these lovely grapes and everything, but for me, that particular day, everything did seem slow, slow, for some reason. I noticed it more than other. You know, I noticed the, the, you know the fellow that was selling me the grapes. I, I focused on his smile. It was kind of weird. Then I had a coffee and I noticed the soft sunshine, as I, you know, was sipping, because it's a change of the seasons, isn't it? The sunshine is soft. It's so soft, yeah, because it's like October now, and then, and then, when we were walking again, you know this random guy on a bicycle, he was, he was cycling, and I sort of let him through. And then I got this lovely smile, you know, from him and I thought, by the end of the whole Sunday, I what I remembered most was a smile from the person and you know the the the guy who sold us these grapes. It was so happy that we bought two little crates of them and and was so grateful that we actually purchased them and was so proud of them because they came from his vine you know vineyard and and so it was all like it was like that.

Speaker 1: 3:18

It was like all slow, it felt like it was a Korean. It felt like that because sometimes it doesn't, though I think it doesn't feel like that when you're in your own head and you're not actually out in the world, right? So when you're actually out in the world, what I mean is you're really enjoying and savouring every moment and looking, making life like special, instead of being in your own head and just thinking about all your worries or your problems or goodness knows what you're thinking about, what you have to do the next day. When you're actually in the present moment, it is like that where everything does slow down and you have time for everything. It's amazing really. Yeah, slow down and you have time for everything. It's amazing really. Yeah, you know, it is a bit like when you're in, you know, a bit like hypnosis, really, isn't it? Because that is what I mean this is a podcast for, so we're not going to actually be using hypnotic language, but we are hypnotists so we do know how to go and take people into these particular states, and the Korean you know thing you're talking about does sort of reflect it, does? It does remind me of that, because the way it was filmed that they would take ages on one shot of them, just two people looking at each other or one person coming in, and it would be woo, and then the music.

Speaker 1: 4:44

I think life is once, once again, life is like that, especially when there's the falling in love moment. Things are like one glance from that person, you know. They're at their desk and they look up. You know that's what it's like. You know that's what life is really like. Gosh, you know I got a glance from that person, somebody you like. You know these are moments that sort of have this massive impact on your life, don't they that you wouldn't have even noticed before if someone looks at you.

Speaker 1: 5:15

No, if you're not like in that particular state and if you don't, you know like you're falling in love with somebody. Especially when you're falling in love with somebody, those moments are like, yeah, but what about when you're falling in love with life and you've forgotten how lovely life was? That is so true. You're falling in love with life and you've forgotten how, how lovely life was. That is so true. You're falling in love with life once again. Yes, you're appreciating how, what, how precious it is and how every moment is important and how you can enjoy every moment as well and take. That's the best thing.

Speaker 1: 5:45

To fall in love with life is the best thing, because that's when you really start noticing, you know, that's when life begins to actually slow down for you, no matter how chaotic things are around you and no matter, you know life is uncertain, life is. You know everything is so full of uncertainty that you can become overwhelmed with it. But you know, yeah, if you do take the time just to slow down and just kind of imagine that you're in one of these uh communities, you watch one, these korean series, you might learn something from it, because it really does. You know, show you how, how to slow down and not always be like so frenetic and always like scrolling from one thing to the next. You really do have to have patience to watch these things, really, yes, but once you get into them, you appreciate it.

Speaker 1: 6:42

Wow, and you have to read the subtitles as well, I imagine, or put it in a language that you understand. All right, did you watch it with the subtitles? No, no, well, you know, because I've had my retina thing, so I do struggle a bit with this. Yeah, with subtitles. So I actually put it in spanish. Oh, spanish, yeah, which is which is? You know, it was our mom's language. Yes, and it actually the actually wasn't too bad in spanish, because I think if I wouldn't have been able to stand it in english, no, it would have been too much of a dissonance.

Speaker 1: 7:12

Okay, maybe because when we were little, we used to watch those cartoons that were anime. Yeah, they were from, you know, they were from. I think they must have been Japanese, japanese, definitely Not Korean, but they were Japanese. Or maybe they might have been Korean, I don't know. I can't remember them. Do you remember the Apemeya? Apemeya, that wasn't anime. Are you joking? That's a Spanish thing? Yeah, but I think it was anime. No, I mean, it was about this little bee. Yeah, but it was a cartoon. That was anime, I'm sure Was it. I think so. Anyway, oh, I bet you it wasn't. I bet you it wasn't. I really want to Google this now. Well, it was in that style anyway. Okay, I bet you it wasn't. There's another one that we used to watch as adults Mary Pen Mary, which was another anime cartoon, and it was actually anime. Did you ever watch that? No, I didn't. About the secret garden Mary Pen Mary. It was called in Italy. No, mary, it was called in Italy. No, yeah, and that was really calming and it was anime, really. No, I did not watch that, but anyway, yes, definitely.

Speaker 1: 8:18

So I mean, it puts you into that state of I think that's why people are going back to the old crafts as well, like embroidery, knitting, sewing. We used to do a lot of that, didn't we? Yeah, but now you know young people are going to do a lot of that, didn't we? Yeah, but now that, yeah, you know young people going, young people definitely looking to do things like that as well, because it really does put you in the moment and, just you know, concentrate on that next stitch, kind of thing, definitely, and it also allows your, your hands to be busy and your mind to be free. Yes, to sort of, because your conscious mind is occupied, as to say, with a, a task that becomes familiar to you, so it's like a competence. Uh, once you learn how to knit, it becomes like an unconscious competence. So you don't really need to focus that much unless you're learning right now. But if you become competent at it, your mind, your hands can just do it by themselves, so as to allow your unconscious mind to be free, as to say, and to absorb other things.

Speaker 1: 9:22

So that's why doing tasks that are uh, uh, you know, that are you, you do, you know, yeah, but when you're knitting, you don't like go and think about your, the next bill you have to pay or something. It kind of sees you. No, it frees your mind up because you go into that little or painting or something like that. You're going into that little special space that you like because it's a moment for you. Yeah, carving, whatever it is you're doing, it's your hobby. Yes, it's something for you. No, no, it's so true you're, and it slows life down.

Speaker 1: 9:54

So, as they put the phone down and you know, get on to doing something like this, or just take a stroll and notice what's around you or when you're in traffic, instead of thinking, oh no, there's traffic, look around you, you might see things. The other day I was stuck in traffic. So many things I've never seen before me too. I saw all these new houses that were popping up, and then I saw these wonderful chestnut tree leaves and I noticed there were chestnuts on the floor, and I love that because I thought, oh, this is welcoming autumn. You know, it's also a bit sad, and not sad, but nostalgic for me.

Speaker 1: 10:29

Yeah, I'm always a little bit say sorry to the sunshine rays going, but they don't really go. They don't go, especially here. We're lucky, we're lucky, but but they change. The lighting changes softer, it's more time to hibernate. Yeah, coochie up, yeah, what's that word? Oh, come on In Swedish, I can't remember that. Yeah, hoo-ha, not hoo-ha, coo-ga. Oh gosh, I can't remember we had these Danish Lovely people Cuddle. What it meant like Cuddle up, cuddle up. Yeah, they have a particular word for it, and we're going to do that today. Well, we're not Snuggle, no, we're not, it's like snuggling. It was like snuggling up with friends. We're going for a passeggiata today. Yeah, we're going for a stroll and we're going to enjoy the sun rays?

Speaker 1: 11:28

Definitely, yes, I think it doesn't have to be a Sunday for you to notice these things, yeah, and when you do notice things outside your own awareness that you wouldn't normally be aware from that already puts you into a calm state of mind. It does, yeah, it'll take you. It's like what you said when you're living out of your mind. It's a skill. Yes, it's hard to explain because you're always inside your mind and it's you know.

Speaker 1: 11:58

You might be saying how do I get outside of my mind? I am my mind. Yes, it's with your Focus on others. Yes, exactly outside. Yes, it's with your focus on others. Yes, exactly, focus on other, focus on other things, on other people, on people's faces, on your surroundings, your surroundings, on nature, on the color of the bench, on anything else. But that's going to help you get outside of your own mind and your own worries and concerns.

Speaker 1: 12:27

And that that makes life longer. It makes life seem like a korean, you know, uh series. It makes it's a trick. It's a trick of slowing down time. You'll live longer, you will. You will feel as though you live longer anyway, because the day will go on and you'll have time to do everything you will. You will feel as though you live longer anyway, because the day will go on and you'll have time to do everything you will. It's surprising, but that's how it. That's how it is, that's how it is. Yes, we did do an episode on the time the robbing the thief, the thief of time. So go and check that one out. Oh, yeah, go and listen to it. Definitely, yeah, and how to elongate time? To elongate time, well, we're going to elongate our day and we hope you are too. Let us know what you think about time slowing down.

Speaker 1: 13:17

And if you enjoy these korean series, or if you've ever never watched one, go and watch one. If you can definitely say hi to us on youtube and, uh, please do subscribe as well. It really helps our channel grow and come and podcast podcast reviews. We really do need them. So please do come and give us yes, definitely, yes, yeah, yeah, they help, don't? They do help us. They help us. The algorithm, I know, gets it moving. So, yeah, we have to get that moving. If anything else, everything else has to slow down, but some things have to speed up, speed. So go and give us a review on apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast, and we'll see you next week. Lots of love and smiles from the english sisters. Bye for now.