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How to Simplify Life and Be Happy
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How to simplify life and be happy. Yay, that's what we all really want, isn't it? I think so. Well, I do. I like a simple life. I like a happy life. Well, I think we all do, don't we? We really don't want an overcomplicated, chaotic existence, unless it's perhaps just for a very short period of time. Yeah, so that's what we're going to be chatting about in this week's episode of get real with the english sisters. And, of course, a simple life and a happy life relieves anxiety and stress, doesn't it? Absolutely, absolutely deep breath.
Speaker 1:I think one of the ways to simplify life is just to breathe breathe properly. How many of us don't breathe properly? Yeah, how many of us. It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? But it's a shallow breathing that can sort of, you know, really make you feel anxious, can't it? And and it's it's because when you are anxious, you will tend to have that kind of shallow breath that's sort of like very superficial, isn't it? Yeah, and I think the shallow breathing does just make everything seem so much more complicated than it really is, because I don't think we get enough oxygen to our, to our brain and our body, right? Yeah, so, but if we want to think about it, so, apart from being able to, you know, sort of like, take a deep breath every every hour or so, I would recommend, you know, throughout the day, becoming a bit more mindful about your breathing and, yeah, just stopping a minute just to take three deep breaths.
Speaker 1:You know they've got those breathing apps now and everything with a little ball that you can follow it. They're actually quite good, you know, they're useful. If you're going to be looking at your screen anyway, you might as well look at that and and and do a few exercises. Literally takes about 60 seconds, 90 seconds, and you know, follow that little ball and or follow what you know the, the whole routine through of the deep breath in and then holding and then releasing it. You know it's like when you take your blood pressure, they do tell you hang on a second, take it, and then do it. You know it's like when you take your blood pressure, they do tell you hang on a second, take it, and then do the three deep breaths. Whenever I do that, that always makes my blood pressure go higher. You know I'm thinking about that's weird because my husband last night I said take the three deep breaths and it made it higher. So I don't know about that. I just know that if you just close your eyes and you breathe in and count to seven, then hold for seven or six and then breathe out and count to six, you'll feel a lot better and just close your eyes and think about something that makes you feel good, whether it's the ocean waves or the smell of freshly cut grass, whatever it is, yeah, it's a cup of hot coffee and watching the steam come off it, or your favorite drink, having a laugh with your friends. Just do that while you're thinking about the breathing breathing for six, out, hold for six and out for six. You'll feel a lot better. You will.
Speaker 1:So I think that's because I do think that, uh, happiness is an inside job. You can't get happiness from any, any one thing in particular. It's a, it's it's. It's a, it's a feeling, isn't it? It's how you're, how serene and comfortable. And you are right, yeah, it is. It's definitely an inside job. Yeah, because you could be in the best place. You know it's supposed to be the happiest place in the world, where everyone else is having great fun, and you know it's supposed to be, but you're just not. You're not feeling it. Yeah, so it is, it definitely is inside. Yeah, it's, you're right about that.
Speaker 1:So you know, I think also another thing that to simplify, how to simplify your life is learn to say no. That's, I mean, it's so. It's such a given, isn't it? It is, but how many of us actually do it? How many of us say no to those toxic relationships, as toxic colleagues or friendships that we have that just make us feel worse? Oh gosh, all right, yeah, definitely, you've got to say no.
Speaker 1:I mean like, do you want to come out in the evening and have a drink with me, and you know you're going to be finishing work, and then you're in a bit of a rush, and then you want to get home because you want to do things that are going to make you feel good, but then you feel sorry for that person. You think, yeah, sure, right, and you end up going with them, you know, for a drink or for a coffee, whatever it is. And then you're like you, probably, you, you probably didn't even want, you didn't want to do it in the first place, so it doesn't make you feel good, and you, you might have even had to pay for something you didn't want to pay for. You know you might be drinking something you did not want to drink, and you do all of this. Why, why, why, why, why, why do you do it?
Speaker 1:Obligations, social obligations. You think it's the right thing to do. You can get out of these things. You can be really nice and give them a really lovely smile, say you know what I really can't do? This, you know at this moment because I've got to get back. I want to spend time with my family because it makes me feel, you know, calm and whatever.
Speaker 1:You can invent something. Let's say you don't need to invent, don't they? They say you should just be able to say no, but it is very difficult sometimes. So if you have like a polite excuse, you don't need to invent, don't they? They say you should just be able to say no, but it is very difficult sometimes. So if you have like a polite excuse, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. No, you can't just say no. Come on, people are always saying that you have to be assertive and say no, I really need time for myself today. Yeah, that takes courage, though, saying that I just really want to go home and put my PJs on. You know some people I've said that before and people really appreciate it. And then they say, yeah, I want to do the same actually. Yeah, yeah, I have said that. But obviously it depends what context. We know. You know, we know sometimes it can appear rude or sometimes you can't, you can't. It's like somebody that's above you in your job or whatever. You know and you think.
Speaker 1:But what you were just saying before about you know, financially as well, you might not want you to go out, of course, on health reasons. Financially, it might be a financial burden on you, and when you're simplifying your life, that's what you also have to think about is simplifying your finances. So, because finances, if they're very complex or you're spending too much, can cause so much stress and anxiety to you. Yeah, but if you simplify and you just say, no, okay, I've got enough money to go out, say once a week or zero a week, whatever it is, you have to think prioritize that. And no, actually I don't want to go out and spend all this money with you because I want to be able to spend that, whatever amount it is, at the weekend with my partner or my family. Exactly if I'm going to be spending like, simplify, yeah, 50 euros, 50 pounds or whatever now with you at the pub yeah, because, like in england, you know, it's quite traditional to do those kind of things or go out for an aperitif. Or here in Italy, where in the end, you're going to be spending 35, 40 euros, you know, whatever the currency is, that might have been your, you know, saved amount that you were planning to spend this weekend and then that's going to make you feel bad as well. So you're not simplifying your life in that way.
Speaker 1:Complicating you are complicating your financial life as well, and finances are, like what you say, gigantic part of being able to simplify life and being happy and being happy. Yes, because if you have a financial burden, it's it's actually quite difficult to be happy. Yeah, you know it's much more of a struggle if you feel that you haven't got your finances under control and that you're not. You know you may have debt, but if you've got that debt under control and you're paying off every month, you can feel serene. Yes, because we all have some kind of debt anyway, but if you know it's under control, you're going to be feeling a lot calmer and it's going to make your life a lot more simple. Control you're going to be feeling a lot calmer and it's going to make your life a lot more simple.
Speaker 1:But if you are overspending or doing things that you really don't get pleasure from and just doing it because it's like the social or they're impulsive acceptable yes, exactly, they're impulsive you might actually get pleasure from. You think, sure, I'd love to go out for a drink with you. Hey, come on, I'll go out for a drink, but then afterwards that's that's going to cause you anxiety or might cause, you know, a situation at home that might lead into, like some kind of a fight. So you know that your relationship's not going to suffer from that. Yeah, because you might have someone at home that was waiting for you and thinking why are you overspending? Yeah, why did you just that for the weekend, exactly, you know, and why do that?
Speaker 1:You know there are things you can do to simplify your life. You know you can carry a water bottle around instead of having to buy water all the time and always thinking you're thirsty. For example, bring your packed lunch. Yeah, you can take that instead of, you know, getting to the last moment when you're starving and buying. Now that you're saying about packed lunch, I mean, I've had things like that sometimes when you have a very complicated life.
Speaker 1:You, you feel as if you can't make a packed lunch, I know because you've got so much on and your mental load is so, you know, so strong and so, so heavy that you can't say oh, no, no, that you know. I did that the other day. That would kill me to be able to make my patelage. I can't, I just can't do that now. I can't handle it. So you did it the other day, I did it the other day, but it made it even worse because what happened is that we didn't I didn't have any food.
Speaker 1:I I got really hungry. I had to. I went to this coffee shop. I had a pastry and then that was okay for a couple of hours, but then the day was long, until it was like till 7pm and I got starving again. So I went to this other place to try and find some food and I we ordered this food, me and my husband, and it was disgusting.
Speaker 1:There was a hair in it. I know it was disgusting. There was a hair in it. I know it was horrible. It was one of those, like you know, those restaurants where you just get the tray and you walk along. Yeah, there was a hair in it. So it was the whole experience.
Speaker 1:I thought, god, I never, never again will I do that. No one thing is if it's your own hair when you're preparing your own bite lunch. Look, my husband was trying to justify, saying it's your hair. I go, look, it's long and it's black. My hair is curly and it's brown. It's a different. I'm sorry, darling, that's not my hair, you know. So, anyway, he was trying to because he wanted to eat it. Poor thing, in the end we had to leave it.
Speaker 1:We ended up spending all that. You know it wasn't much money, but, hey, it was like 30 euros. Yeah, I spent more. That was for something disgusting and I thought, god, I should have just, you know, I should have just grabbed a can of Tuna, yeah, tuna, or that, what's that other fish that we like? Now, that's healthy for you, um, mackerel, mackerel or something. I just I didn't, I didn't feel as if I wanted to do that. No, because. So that's another point.
Speaker 1:If you have got a cluttered life and you want to simplify, another thing is to like stock up, so buy things like cans of tuna or mackerel in stuff that you like, yeah, stuff that you know is healthy and good for you and have it, that you can just take it. So you can always just pop one of those in your, in your, in your bag when you're leaving for work. Yeah, and then you know you've, you've got that that you can eat afterwards. So it's not much fun, because the reason why I didn't take it is because I didn't have any salad or anything. So I thought where am I gonna eat this? You can still pour that on a plate and eat it as a little snack. And if you had a little bit of bread to go with it, yeah, no, no, I didn't. No, I didn't have the plate. I would have had to open it at home, stuff it in a little tupperware. No, you have the thing, for there is because you have a place at work where you can do that. You have to take little plates and that and keep them there. No, yeah, I know. Yeah, the place of work. I couldn't do it because we had the workers up there. That's the only reason.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, unusual situation, but in general you can do things. You can get organized, even if you feel as if you can't. It's a tip to simplifying your life three deep breaths and meal prep. So you've got the stuff that you're going to need for your lunches, and even sometimes it doesn't have to be awkward stuff that's really difficult to make on the day or whatever. It's easy, simple stuff can just be your leftovers you had from the day. Honestly, it would have been better if we just gone to a supermarket and bought one of those salads that you that you know, those ready-made salads that you can just open and eat. That would have been better, and you would have probably got your toilet paper and other stuff that you would have been able to have for exactly. Yeah, but the thing is that when you're tired, you don't feel like going to the supermarket and looking for stuff. I know, I know, I thought, no, I'm too tired. Yeah, you want to sit down and get served. It's yeah, that's a problem, but that is a key to simplifying your life and being happier.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it's, yeah, doing things In advance. In advance. It's like you put the washing machine on at night so that in the morning you can hang your clothes out, so that the next day they'll be dry and clean and you've got them for work. Otherwise, yeah, another tip is to you know, prepare what you need for work, what you're going to wear the day before and just hang it out so that you've got it ready. So you don't have to be rushing around looking for your clothes and well especially if it's something important like you know you're gonna you've got something that you want, even if it isn't anything. Well, I agree, even if it's just jeans, it's not. You've got them, they're clean and they're ready. You have to put them on and you know where they are. You don't have to be fumbling around. I know that makes it so much easier.
Speaker 1:Uh, I was also thinking about things like bills as well. Simplify your bills. Put them on auto so they pay straight off things like that, and also reduce your bills, because we have so much clattering bills. We've got so many subscriptions we're not even using half of us. Oh right, oh, I see what you mean by that. Yeah, things that are just like yeah, you know what you've got, your, your, you've forgotten to cancel something. You're paying for it, you're you're not watching a service, a tv service or something you're using, so simplify that as well. That'll make you a lot happier. Well, that's definitely made my life easier now, ever since I take my meals with me to work most of the time, except for one day, and sort of getting organized there taking my own water.
Speaker 1:I know that might sound silly. No, it's not silly, because I'm thirsty all the time and I'm having to go off and buy water. I find that you know it could. It's not silly. Yeah, buy water, I find that you know it could not silly, yeah, and you know, and making sure that the washing is always done in the evening I put that on in. You know it's.
Speaker 1:There are simple tips like that, yeah, and then I think as well is like enjoying those simple pleasures. So like, if you enjoy having a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee shop, definitely, you know, go for it and enjoy it. I love it, and you know, pay for that, whatever it is, and it's going to cost you more than making it yourself or putting it in a flask, but if that's what's giving you great pleasure in that moment, do it. You know, yeah, definitely, definitely that will make you, but you budget for that, don't you? Yeah, yeah, your life a lot happier and simpler as well. Well, yeah, I don't know about simpler, but definitely you don't you? Yeah, yeah, your life a lot happier and simpler as well. Well, yeah, I don't know about simpler. But definitely you have to go and prepare the coffee in the morning, but if you're one of those people that takes great pleasure in preparing your flask, you know, go for it and take it. Take it with you, definitely.
Speaker 1:So you want to simplify things. You want to, you know, simplify your finances, simplify your meals, your friends, and make sure that you're getting good, healthy food into your body friendships as well, you know. You know prioritize. Yeah, you know you've got one life and and you're thinking, do I want to spend two hours with this person? But but you know, sometimes you think you don't and then you enjoy it. Yeah, so what? You know we don't want careful with that one. You have to be careful. Yeah, you're right, but I think you have to do otherwise.
Speaker 1:You have to do a little survey and say the last 10 times I saw that person, did it make me feel good? Did I get something? Yes, that's correct. You know if it's always no, no, no, and I felt terrible and awful afterwards, well, yeah, just start weaning, weaning yourself off. Bravo, yeah, that's so true. Yeah, the last time, give it. Give it like a proper, do a little study on it. You know a proper thing not just say no, I can't be bothered. Well, they're there or not.
Speaker 1:If the poor person is going through a rough time and they're, you know they're really overburdened and you're like their support, you know, don't just abandon them. No, no, no, definitely. You can also compromise. If they want to go out and chat over coffee, say, and not coffee say, over drinks in the evening, and it's going to cost you 50 quid, saying, look, why don't you come over to mine? And while you're, while you're there, you know we'll have a cup of tea and then I, and then, at the same time, you can start putting your dinner on or whatever for the evening. Yes, yes, and you can still offer comfort. But then but it's not like weighing you down yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, totally, because you're still getting your stuff that you wanted to do done, you're not spending any extra money and you're, you know you're simplifying your own life.
Speaker 1:Or like you know, like what you do with your daughter, like she's in London, you're in Italy, you both walk on the treadmill together, so you're getting your exercise in, she's getting her exercise, I think. She walks home from work, she walks from work, but you're like that's the kind of a way of simplifying your life, because otherwise you would have to just be sitting down and chatting with her, because, you know, sometimes you know you would you love chatting to her, but I could be doing other things as well. But I mean, I could be like making my dinner if I wanted to. Yeah, yeah, I mean it's a good way of me getting my exercise in, where I would maybe be lazy about it. But I know that she's walking and I, so I think, oh, yeah, I'll walk as well. Yeah, so you're kind of simplifying that part of your.
Speaker 1:You know your gym routine, aren't you? Yeah, definitely killing two birds with one stone, as they say in england. Yeah, because I'm getting my gym done and life is already complicated enough as it is. That's the thing, isn't it? There are things that happen to us that are unexpected. There's so many you know it's, so you don't really know, do you? We're in a constant state of really not knowing what's going to occur to us and what's going to occur to us and what's going to happen, and there is uncertainty.
Speaker 1:So that if we can simplify those kind of easy basic things, yeah, I think it can be really, really helpful, I think so to simplify them into, you know, and remember to breathe. Yeah, yeah, remember to breathe. Sounds ridiculous, but I know it's one of those things that you tend to forget how easy it is. Yeah, definitely, just take a walk as well. That's a good one always to help you think.
Speaker 1:Go outside for a few moments. Yeah, they actually say that being in large spaces outside sort of opens up your thoughts. That's why it's actually good to be outdoors, because it like, yeah, and I think that's why it's good to declutter your home as well. So you haven't got too much stuff around, gosh, yeah, look at the stuff I've got in here. This is the room where we work. It's not my stuff, no, no, no, I'm good about decluttering my stuff. He's like a hoarder with his stamps and stuff. Goodness me, if you saw what was in here, you'd be like thinking gosh, it's like packed on the shelves, but at least it's all on the shelves, most of it. Most of it, yeah, because I don't let him have boxes. He just stock them up. Gosh, anyway, let us know what you think.
Speaker 1:Do you find if you live a more simple life with simple pleasures, it's easier? I think most of us would. Yeah, if you've got any tips on how to you simplify your life, and that could be from you know anything. Basic things, just really simple things. We'd love to know. We would, so let us know in the comments, or send us a text and come and see the video on youtube too. Subscribe to our youtube channel, which is growing lots of love and smiles from the english sisters.
