Transforming Challenges: The Power of Positive Perspective and Simple Joys

Ever wondered how a simple change in perspective can transform everyday challenges into opportunities for growth? Tune in as we unravel the magic of reframing your thoughts and language, turning tasks like attending a party or delivering a speech from anxiety-inducing events into exciting adventures. We share personal stories of how these mindset shifts have redefined our routines, including the transformative power of viewing a trip to the supermarket as a privilege rather than a chore. Discover how music can be your secret weapon for a quick mood boost, and learn how gratitude, especially in a post-pandemic world, can reshape your daily experiences.

As the holiday season approaches, we celebrate the beauty found in everyday moments and connections. Hear how engaging with family, particularly the elderly, can offer profound insights and strengthen our bonds, reminding us of life's fleeting nature. We explore the importance of cherishing these interactions and highlight the simple joys that enhance our well-being, like savoring a cozy evening with hot chocolate. Join us in embracing the power of positive self-talk and gratitude to enrich our lives and create memories that last beyond the festive season.

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Chapters

• 0:00 How to Change Your Perspective
• 6:49 Finding Joy in Everyday Moments

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

What if you don't want to do something and you really can't be bothered and it's really annoying you. What can you do about it? But you know you have to do it. Well, I suppose you know what I do in these circumstances is that I kind of try and change the way I'm looking at it and also change the words that I'm using to describe it. So say, like it's a party, it's a, it's a party I don't want to go to and in my head I'm saying it's going to be really boring. I know that I'm not going to enjoy myself. I'm going to try and change those words that I say to myself yeah, and you can do it, and in a few different ways, and we're going to be. That's what we're going to be talking about in this week's episode of Get Real With the English Sisters. Please do come and see us on YouTube too and give us a follow, follow the podcast, and please do rate it on Apple Podcasts if you listen on Apple or wherever you get your podcasts, because you help us grow.

Speaker 1: 1:05

Do you know what I do as well? Sometimes, if I'm not in the mood, I put a good, good song on. A song can definitely help change your mood. Yeah, super fast. Yeah, put some music on really well, yeah, if you want to, if you want to. If I'd say, if I don't really feel like going to a party, because it's got like round where it's normally, I don't go out coochie coochie time, yeah, and I'm normally like wanting to cuddle up in front of the fire yeah, well, I put some music on and then I'll start putting my makeup on and then I'll reframe it and think I'm gonna probably gonna reframing it.

Speaker 1: 1:39

It's thinking about it in a different, different way, with a different perspective. It's like you've got an old picture or an old painting and you're going to change your frame around it. It's going to change the way the painting looks, doesn't it? Well, yeah, won't it? It will? Yeah, definitely. Yeah, I did that recently. I had some photos that I like, but I didn't like the frame, so I put some beautiful coloured frames on them. Yeah, and it does make it look like now I want to, because before I had them stuck in the cupboard. Now you want to look at them. So there you go. Yeah, it's true. Yeah, you can, I, I did that as well. I had an old one of the the children, my children's photo, and it was. I mean, obviously it's as sweet as anything. But then I put this lovely new velvet like light blue frame that matches the living room and I thought, thought, oh, it looks really nice now. So, yeah, I guess we can sort of understand it that way.

Speaker 1: 2:31

Reframing is a very useful technique, isn't it? And anything in life it is. It is useful, it's yeah, it's changed our lives, changed our lives. It really did, because we were just, especially when we first learned about reframing, we would just reframe everything. I don't want to go to the supermarket. Oh, I do want to go to the supermarket and think how lucky I am. I have all the money that I need to buy what I need to buy at the supermarket, exactly, yeah, well, think how lucky I am that the supermarket, uh, shelves are stocked. And then that puts everything in a different perspective. Instead of thinking I can't be bothered to go to the supermarket now, what a drag, you think you. You look at it in a different way. How lucky am I that I can go to the supermarket? Or, especially after the pandemic, how lucky are we that we can go now and the shelves are stocked? The shelves are stocked and we don't have to wait. I still think that sometimes after that I know it's been a long time, but we still have yeah, I still got this like yeah, I still think, oh, thank goodness it's so packed to the supermarket and I can I can have access to all these different things and foods and we're not going to talk about toilet paper. That was like one main drama, especially around this time of year, that it comes up to this time of year when a couple of years ago, a few years back, quite a few now but we couldn't be together and you couldn't get in the car and you couldn't drive everything. Just when you can't have something and then you have it again, it just changes the whole perspective. It really does. Yeah, it makes you feel so much gratitude. Absolutely, we couldn't do so many things that we can do now, or like even a speech at work.

Speaker 1: 4:33

You know, sometimes you've just got to stand up and you're feeling really nervous about presenting your work that you've done. And you know you can think about it in this way Think, am I nervous or am I excited? And that's helped me a lot as well, because whenever I used to think, god, I'm so nervous about this, you know, I'm literally so nervous, I would say say, no, you're really, what you really are is excited. You're very excited about this, and it's a way to sort of like auto suggest yes to yourself that you're excited and then in the end you are excited. Well, you're probably looking forward to getting it over. Yeah, well, like as with public talking, I've always been very public speaking. I've always been very, very nervous about that and, um, it helped me with that. I used to think I'm so excited to do this. Make this presentation. Yes, it does help. It does help. Yeah, what are you looking at me like that?

Speaker 1: 5:31

No, because it does help of it does it's reframing it and using a different word, because the words we use, the language we use, affects how we feel, which seems, I mean, we only learned this like 15 years ago or whatever. Yeah, the power of words. We didn't realize that words you use every day and use to yourself or you use in your everyday vocabulary they affect how you're going feel, so much so. So if you say it's gonna be a you know day, or it's gonna be a beautiful day, or it's gonna be an f day, or whatever it's gonna, it's gonna affect how you're gonna feel that day. So it will. It's like you. You're like hypnotizing yourself from the moment you begin that day.

Speaker 1: 6:16

You know, instead of looking for some small moments of joy throughout that day, what you're doing is you're just noticing all the horrible things that you set yourself up for. That you, I don't know. You do, I do, I know this is to be true, that's for sure, it is to be true. I know, if you've got to go and do something you really don't want to do and if you say, okay, I've got to do this, it might last for maybe maximum 30 minutes, then I can. It's just one part of my day.

Speaker 1: 6:49

Then I can look at the rest of the day and notice, nice, yeah, and things that give me joy, and the holidays as well, the holiday season, when you're thinking, oh no, I've got to go to all these things and I don't want to go and see all my relatives, and oh, what a drag. And uncle so-and-so is going to be moaning, moaning I've had too much to drink and he's going to be saying weird things. You know, you can just think, oh well, you know, never mind, I'm going to try and find the positives in this and you will always find one positive at least there will always be something you'll be grateful for, maybe even be grateful that you, you have people that you can go to. Exactly, yeah, because even if they're not your favorite people, they're still people that you can connect to and that'll be there for you, maybe when you need them as well. Yes, so true, and the moaning uncle. One day he might not be there anymore and you'll notice the absence and you'll think, hey, wasn't that bad. Exactly because this is what happens.

Speaker 1: 7:53

This is life. Life is we come and we go, and you notice people and then they're not there anymore and you think, oh, you know, I wish I'd had a bit more of a chat with so-and-so, or. You know, time goes by sometimes when people can be really boring as well. If you actually ask them questions, maybe try and find out about their past something that interests in them. Say, someone that's you know a bit more elderly, perhaps, yeah, they might have. If you actually ask them questions, maybe try and find out about their past, something that interests them. So, someone that's you know a bit more elderly, they might have some amazing stories to tell you and if you, you know, they can really open up. Yeah, they can open up your mind. So if you go, if you, instead of just saying whatever, if you sit down with them and you have a conversation with them, you can actually enrich you enrich your life too. Yes, so much. So that is really true. It is.

Speaker 1: 8:42

Today is a beautiful day, that's what I can say. And when it's not a beautiful day, when it's cold and excuse me, when it's cold and whatever, you can still make the most of it. You can have hot chocolate inside and cosy up. If you're fortunate enough, you can remember that the words that you say to yourself are fundamental. They are. Well, I'm sure you're very busy, so we're going to leave you, get on with your festivities and sending you lots of love and smiles from the English Sisters.