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Your Personal Power Is Waiting to Be Claimed—Are You Ready?
Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your decisions or seeking approval from others? The quest for personal power might be exactly what you're missing—and it's not about ego or narcissism at all.
Personal power is that inner strength that allows you to trust yourself, make decisions with confidence, and recognize opportunities when they appear. As we explore in this heartfelt conversation, developing your personal power actually frees you from excessive self-focus, creating space for genuine growth and connection with others.
When you cultivate personal power, you gain resilience—the ability to bounce back from setbacks without spiraling into self-doubt. You can listen to feedback without feeling attacked. You can evaluate advice on its merits rather than accepting it unquestioningly from authority figures. And perhaps most importantly, you can remain anchored in your values even when the winds of opinion shift around you.
The journey to personal power starts with mindfulness and self-reflection. Ask yourself why you doubt your decisions or seek constant validation. Acknowledge your achievements and innate gifts—those talents you take for granted because they come naturally. Consider the five people you spend the most time with—are they nurturing your growth or unconsciously keeping you small to maintain their comfort? Creating healthy boundaries protects your personal power, giving you the space to think clearly and grow authentically.
Whether you're feeling powerless in your current circumstances or simply looking to strengthen your inner resources, join us for this illuminating conversation about unleashing your personal power. Share your experiences with us on social media or YouTube—we're therapists dedicated to helping you thrive, and we'd love to hear from you!
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How to harness your own personal power and how to gain more of it, and is it really worth the trouble? Is it worth it? We'll soon find out. That's what we'll be chatting about in this week's episode of Get Real with the English Sisters. Welcome, welcome. Thank you so much for listening, and if you do enjoy this podcast, please feel free to share it with your family and friends. Exactly, we really do appreciate that. Yeah, it makes a difference, absolutely so.
Speaker 1:Personal power, I mean. Why are we bothering even to talk about this? I don't know, because everyone seems to talk about personal power now, don't they? It's all. It could sound like narcissistic, yes, it could be just all about me, me, me all the time. Well, yes, but if we think about it, personal power gives us the ability to understand and and to control our own minds and our own emotions.
Speaker 1:As to say so, you know, having more personal power certainly does come with benefits. Maybe it comes with the fact that you actually don't think about yourself so much when you do feel powerful well, now you're trying to put a mind twist on this you don't think about. Well, what happens is that you believe in yourself more so that even when you're in a particular situation where you normally would have more self-doubt. Exactly you, you can. You know you. You learn to trust yourself more. That comes with personal power. I think you learn to understand the ability to trust yourself and thus you can also trust others more as well, because you believe in yourself. So if you hear something that's good advice from another person, you'll believe you can take that on for yourself. Yeah, whereas if you're always doubting yourself, it can be difficult to to know whether that advice is actually good or bad, exactly and you're, or whether you're always in victim mode, like you're always thinking. Well, you know, this hasn't worked for me in the past before, so why should it work now? Or I'm always unlucky. So what happens is that you know you're going to lose out on opportunities. What happens when you gain more personal power is that, basically, you gain more confidence in your own ability to judge situations and to make decisions, to make decisions and to catch opportunities when you see them. Decisions and to catch opportunities when you see them, because if you don't have this personal power, this strength within you, when an opportunity comes along, you might not be able to see it or you might not believe in yourself enough that you can take advantage of it.
Speaker 1:Do you think that this personal power comes with, like, comes with experience, or do you think you have to cultivate it? Or does it? Does it just? Is it just a natural thing that's within us all? I think it's probably natural. When we're born, we're all confident enough in ourselves to be able to start taking those first steps. But then what can happen, as we all know, is when we grow up. You know, we all know that life, yes, life, um, life, life throws, you know, things at us, family, you know we, we don't all have the ideal environment in which to grow up and that nurtures our self-esteem and cultivates you know our inner power. So you know, stuff happens.
Speaker 1:I remember thinking that people that have a lot of personal power, they kind of just, they always know what's right, kind of naturally, like they always seem to know what's right for them. Even if it's like quite a risky situation, they go for it because they've got confidence, they're like motivated. And what happens? Even if fearful, yes, and even if they do make a mistake, they'll learn from that mistake and say, hey, they don't care. No, they don't go judging themselves hours and hours and days and years. Even I did that wrong and thus no Next step, let's go ahead. They've got that kind of confidence. What can we do to get that kind of confidence? They just put it behind them, don't they?
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, I was watching that film about Blackberry the other day. Yeah, yeah, I saw that too, and I was thinking about the guy that actually he was the CEO. Did you see how shy he was? Ah, the actual yeah, he was really afraid of speaking out. He didn't have the right vocabulary, he didn't have that personal power. The founder yeah, I can't remember his name now. Then they got the other guy in that was the CEO to come and he was all arrogant. The arrogant one, yeah, and he was all arrogant and I'll make a phone call and I'm going to get this done, kind of thing. We did get things done, didn't we as well? Yeah, they certainly needed a push. Yeah, he didn't actually have, he didn't have all the creativity. No, no, he didn't have, like the yes, the personal power within him to really go for it at the beginning. No, he was very shy and maybe he would have come to nothing. In the end, a Blackberry might not have ever been developed.
Speaker 1:I don't know how true that story is, but I think it's based a little bit on truth. Well, it says it's a film based on reality. I mean, I just watched a film last night so I should remember it really clearly. But I don't know, yeah, but I do remember it more or less. And yeah, definitely I did remember thinking, gosh, that new CEO that comes in, he's very arrogant and rude and very like cliche of the time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know rude and that, but I mean certainly he did believe in himself because he went to the bank, he got the credit, he put his house on that, he mortgaged his house, he did everything that he believed in that project, even though he'd just been sacked from his previous job. So that's an example of somebody with a lot of self-belief. Well, he believed in what he was doing and he thought he probably didn't have much choice either, because he thought, if I don't do this, but he was like a go-getter, so he thought I don't just want to be cleaning dishes or whatever, I want to be somebody he had probably the idea that taking action is better than not taking any action at all and just sitting in the cupboard and crying and saying I've been, you know, sacked now and I've lost my job and he quickly took another step. Of course, we don't all have to be like that. No, of course not. He was very rude. Yeah, he was really horrible because they had this really calm, worth work culture. You know, it was more play culture than work. They weren't doing much work, except for the odd thing, yeah, but they were getting some things done. Yes, yes, yes, some things done.
Speaker 1:Anyway, personal power comes from within, does it? It does, but I think you have to work on it, like everything, well, yeah, and I think you have to work on it like everything, well, yeah, and I think you have to surround your with yourself with people that inspire you and motivate you and support you. They say you are, that you are like your five, five people, that that you frequent. Become like the five people you frequent. Yes, that is so true, gosh, that is so true. So you have to make sure you're frequenting the right kind of people that are going to give you that power, not people that are going to be pushing you down and putting you down.
Speaker 1:Well, I think, when you do have more personal power, you've also got the, you know, the ability to be more optimistic about life in general. You know, which is not sure of yourself, yeah, which is not something to take a, you know just to just to ignore. I think when you don't have personal power, you, you doubt yourself a lot. So a lot of the time you're spending on thinking about yourself and doubting yourself, doubting your decisions, exactly, doubting who you, you might be, doubting your relationship. You're always in doubt, always in fear, instead of living in abundance and in the opposite. Yes, you've got more resilience to be able to face those challenges already, because the power within you gives you that resilience to go on and on, like what we were saying in that film. I mean, you might not have seen it, but it's interesting. He gets sacked, loses his job, and then he has the resilience to be able to go on and quickly jump on to the next opportunity. He sees an opportunity and he grabs it. And then blackberry does do very, very well. He grabs it by the horns, exactly. He sees an advantage, you know. He sees that's an opportunity and he'll take advantage of it. Yeah, and he sells himself so well, yeah.
Speaker 1:And actually a study on power led by the social psychologist Adam Galinsky also suggests that personal power frees a person to listen to others without abandoning a personal vision. Without abandoning a personal vision, power also increases creativity and makes it easier to ignore bad advice, even if it comes from a very important person. Yeah, because we do tend to. If you're not that sure of yourself and you're not living within your own power, like you don't know what you really want and who you really are, you're, you're going to be very like, gullible. You're going to be, even if someone in a position of power, that's what you know exactly a very important person in your life. You're going to listen to them and sometimes it is bad advice. It's bad advice. Don't do that, do this.
Speaker 1:And I was watching said that they the wife moved in with her, with her mum, and basically the mum was breaking up their marriage because she was so interfering and the mum was giving her all this advice. That was wrong. In the end, she realized it. She said mum, I'm sorry, but you have to move out because this is hurting my marriage. So now, yes, we can see all these wonderful things about, but how does one gain more personal power? What do you actually have to do to get it?
Speaker 1:If you feel that you're lacking, yeah, I think you have to sit within yourself and it goes down to mindfulness again, down to being with you and like, maybe, writing down your goals, writing down what you want exactly. Looking into yourself for a minute and thinking, okay, you know why. And ask yourself, maybe, why? Why have I always doubted all my decisions? Why am I always doubting myself? Why am I always, you know, is it anxiety that's getting to me? What is it? Is it maybe some the way you've been brought up? Someone or someone in your life that's always been putting you down? That's right. Get to the root of why you always need approval as well. Get down to the root. Why is it that you need other people's approval for things? Think about that for a while.
Speaker 1:You know you have to sit with yourself and ask yourself these questions. You know, like what you were saying, that they're fundamental, they are, they are, they're very, very important. You know I was listening to a podcast this morning with the diary of the CEO and he was saying that the best seven hours he'd ever spent was on a lake in a tiny little boat really there because and he was just by himself in the rain and in the cold and fishing and he said I didn't catch anything. So I was just by myself with the, with the elements, and just my mind was just allowed to wander and just just become clear. Just become clear and just to think clearly. Because, well, imagine if you go on that fishing trip with, with the aim to gain more personal power, with these questions in mind and you can ask yourself you know, what are all the achievements I've already achieved? Think about everything you have already done, and no matter what you've done, it's always a lot more than what you think you've done it is. And also, yeah, but make sure that you, you know, you give yourself credit for those innate gifts that you just ignore. Like maybe you're really clever at doing something and you ignore it, but you just say, no, I'm really good at that.
Speaker 1:There's another lady, the one that invented her skims. She was on another podcast. It's like an underwear thing. Okay, she's, she's got a company anyway. She said she's created a multi-million dollar company really, and she came from a very poor background. She said she's created a multi-million dollar company Really, and she came from a very poor background. She said she was the older sister. She grew her siblings up, practically didn't go to school, she raised them all. But she said the thing that she had was being able to recognise when she lacked talent and to get someone in to do the work for her. Well, that was a good skill and her amazing skill was that she could organise stuff. So she was very good at organising. She could manage and organise things and know when to get things done. So she used that to her advantage and she's done so so well.
Speaker 1:But she was saying never doubt yourself.
Speaker 1:If you have an idea, go for it. Yeah, and don't ignore these innate little gifts that you've got and we all have them. Don't just dismiss them. No, they're part of your achievements. That's part of something that's really valuable to you as a person. Yeah, you might be really good at like I don't know organizing things, like she was, and you think that's not an actual skill, but it is a skill. Maybe you can read really fast, or you can. You're really good at tidying up, or I don't know. There's something you're going to be good at and it's usually the things that you take for granted. Yes, you just don't even know you're good at them because they just come so easily to you. Those are part of your innate gifts and you have to give yourself so much credit for them and let them nurture your sense of being and your sense of personal power. You know, and you've also got to watch out for any toxic relationships. Sorry to say this, but they can be detrimental to you gaining more personal power. You know, you've got to watch out for them.
Speaker 1:They stop you from moving on, don't they? They do. There's always. That's always. That. That's why they always say if you have a great idea or even a tiny idea, just keep it to yourself as a little seedling yes, and then water it by yourself or with someone that's close to you that shares your same, same vision, because a lot of people might want to, without even realizing it, subconsciously they'll. They won't want you to change because they're afraid of change, so they're afraid of losing you. They want to keep you in the little group and keep you as the person they know. They don't want you to change and go off somewhere. You're that person and you're important to their life in that quality and they don't want you to change. They want you to be available for, yes, to be there and to be that person for them, the person they go and have coffee with on a wednesday morning, or the person they call when they need that, and if you're going off doing something different, that might, you know, for a moment, change their idea of you or their. But then, in the long run, you'll probably be an inspiration to them as well, especially if they're close friends and they're true, true friends and they're not. You know, those kinds of you know friends. They're gonna, they're gonna be, they're gonna be, they're gonna appreciate the fact that you're committing to your values and that you're committing to your values. And you can only commit to your values and your beliefs if you believe in yourself, because otherwise you'll just be swaying with the wind.
Speaker 1:One person says this, somebody else says that you just lose yourself. You do, you do, and I think if you have personal power as well, you're more likely to be able to listen to different opinions and take on feedback without letting it offend you or letting it like bother you too much. No, because you have the confidence within yourself to think, okay, yes, that that that was a criticism, but I can. Yeah, that is so true. I know I can. I can take that on board. I acknowledge that. Yes, instead of just snapping back and or just saying no or just blocking that person. You can really listen, and listen with, with, with, with, with the learning state of mind, with an open mind. With an open mind, not listening just to speak. And you can also sometimes see through what that other person's saying. Maybe they're irritated, they're not in the right kind of mindset when they're saying it, or maybe there is something that I must analyze, something that's happened to me or something that I do personally, and you know we all do things that we could, that we can, we can improve on we can. So let us know what you think.
Speaker 1:Are you going to take on your personal power or have you already done so? We're going to be working on it, taking more on? Yes, because I think it's, once again, a lifelong thing, isn't it? Oh, yes, it's constant, it doesn't just end one day. No, it's like a skill that requires you know. It's like a muscle. You have to exercise it, utilize it, work on it, work on it and you know yourself. Like what you said, it's something.
Speaker 1:And also, I think you need to to to have and respect your own personal power. You need to be able to set boundaries so that other people don't infringe on your own personal power. I agree with that? Yeah, because you need space. You need space in which to, to think to, to have your own, and if you don't have boundaries and you're always doing things for other people other people are always in your space that can be damaging. That can have. Yes, yeah. So unleash your creativity, put some water to your personal power and let us know how you're feeling and how much, how powerful you're feeling right now, or how you feel as if you need a little injection of power. Just um, send us a text, or come and see us on youtube as well, where we have the video version of the podcast and lots of love and smiles from the English sisters. We are therapists and we are here to help, so do let us know we are. Bye.
