Unlocking the Secrets to Mindful Living and Living a Stress Free Life

The English Sisters share practical strategies for mindful living to manage stress more effectively in daily life. They explore how small changes in daily habits can lead to significant improvements in mental well-being.

• Starting the day without immediately checking your phone creates space for mindfulness
• Decluttering your physical space brings psychological peace and reduces anxiety
• Designating specific places for items prevents stress from lost belongings
• Learning to say no unapologetically helps prevent burnout
• Physical movement daily acts as a natural stress reliever
• Deep breathing and even intentional yawning activate the parasympathetic nervous system
• Mindful eating creates awareness and appreciation for nourishment
• Establishing consistent sleep routines with bedtime rituals improves rest quality
• Sharing concerns with others normalizes stress responses
• Practicing gratitude shifts focus to positive aspects of life

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Mindful Living
• 6:50 Starting Your Day Mindfully
• 9:21 Decluttering for Peace of Mind
• 16:10 Saying No Unapologetically
• 21:38 Movement and Breathing Techniques
• 24:10 Mindful Eating and Sleep Habits
• 31:10 Sharing and Gratitude Practice

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

unlocking the secrets to mindful living and stress relief. Ah, isn't that what we all want? Really, it's a biggie, isn't it? It is a biggie, yes, to live a stress-free life. I don't think it's fire, I don't think it's possible to live a completely stress-free life, but I think it is possible to know how to um, you know how to to sort of handle stress, how to manage it, how to manage it. Yeah, that's what we're going to be talking about in this week's episode of get real with the english sisters. We are therapists and we are here to help you. Yes, so if you do need any help or you have something that you want to talk to us about, please feel free to just send us a message and we'll have a chat, exactly, yeah.

Speaker 1: 0:57

So I was feeling quite stressed out the other day and anxious. Yeah, because my husband was having an operation, even though it's a minor thing, right, but it was just making me feel out of sorts because my patterns were disrupted. So I was worried, I was concerned and I thought how can I cope with this? So I listened to this lovely mindful meditation by louise, who's no longer with us, but she was a wonderful lady who gave us gratitude and is very well known in our space. Yeah, absolutely. She was a great therapist and it was amazing. It really did help me. It did.

Speaker 1: 1:42

I do think that is one of the, I think, if we managed to start the day with some kind of mindfulness, I mean, even if it's just like what I did today, when I did not touch my phone, I thought, no, I don't want to hear about everything that's going on, I don't want to read my emails yet I'm I don't really want to go straight into work mode at 7am, so I just left it there and I I did that consciously and I got up and I took a few deep breaths and I went into the bathroom. I did all my preparation for the day without reading anything, and then I did bring my phone down to breakfast and then I turned it on, like I actually put yeah during breakfast, but it made me feel more grounded to be able to do that without receiving, you know, all these inquiries and everything that we get all the time, and and and I do think that is very, very good tip, you know, is to start your day like that. Yeah, because I think now, with all this uh, with all this technology that we have it does it means we're like we're always on, yeah, never switch off. We're always so connected to everything and everyone. Exactly. If you're not always in a positive way, though, no, if you start your day with this quiet reflection on how you're feeling, it just takes a few moments, but it's just. How am I feeling, you know, let me just move, stretch my ankles a little bit, even while you're in the bed. You know you can start, you kind of start more naturally, slower rhythm, even if you're in a rush, it doesn't matter, but you're not immediately connected to something that may cause you some form of anxiety, something to do with work or whatever it is that you're going to get. You're going to be bombarded with the chaos that's going on around us.

Speaker 1: 3:45

I also find that when I have like a tidy house, like if I declutter, like if my room oh, that's another if I tidy up yes, and I make my bed yes, I'm already put the, you know empty the dishwasher I'm already a lot happier, I feel a lot calmer. Well, a tidy space does bring a sense of peace. It makes you feel more peaceful, and that's the reason why I, before I go to bed at night, I always want to tidy up the kitchen. I don't, personally. I don't like leaving the dishes here and there. No, I don't either. No, I want it all to be like I put the dishwasher on or I hand wash the dishes, whatever it is. But I want to for the space to be peaceful, to be, all you know, nice and tidy, so that the next morning I can start afresh without feeling, without seeing that clutter. I know, and sometimes it can happen, but that's like 99 percent of the time. That's what I, that's how I practice it. Yeah, I make sure things are tidy.

Speaker 1: 4:48

When I have a moment as well, I might go in and just do a little bit of decluttering. Yeah, that's a good idea to declutter, to make your. If I open one of my wardrobes and things are falling out, yeah, I've got this, I've got this. Things are falling out of mine as well. My office I have to tackle, really, and it's got stuff in it that's just stuffed in there. And it's like me too, when I see it, I think, no, I can't handle it. No, I can't handle this now because I'm too stressed or whatever. But I think you do need that moment of energy. But I think when you get it. When you do it, then afterwards you feel so much better. It is a good. Yes, you do feel better. You do feel better and it's lovely for your mind to see that sort of lovely space where it's not all cluttered.

Speaker 1: 5:39

The clutter can cause anxiety and stress cause anxiety and stress. It can make you feel especially when you can't find things sometimes even just saying okay, from now on I'm going to get a bowl where I'm going to put my keys in it. I mean, this may sound so obvious, but you know how many times, like my husband, he'll lose his keys car keys, house keys and I just said look, here is the bowl, everything goes in there. Do not lose them, stop leaving them around. And I mean he's finally now decided to use that bowl and it causes a lot less stress and that's just by keeping things in you know one place where you know it's there. Yeah, like when things have a home. Yeah, you don't have to go into a frenzy trying to find it, especially when you're in a rush. That can cause anxiety, especially when you're always losing things as well. What are you looking at? Because I mean I did.

Speaker 1: 6:36

I didn't put my keys in the bowl exactly and I was looking for them and then they ended up in my and they were my, one of my handbags, yes, which I find also the fact that we change ladies, yes, all these different handbags which are very fortunate and lovely, and we, I mean, we love our handbags. Yeah, we do. Yeah, when we have, we're lucky, we live in italy so we don't have too many on the go, though yeah, that's why I only use the brown one now. At the moment, I'm just using that bigger version, this big brown one we got. It's really nice, actually, because it's like I think it's locally made, isn't it? It's like Italian, it's locally made, but it wasn't even that expensive, so it was nice and it's got lots of pockets and things, and I'm just, sometimes it's got too many. Yeah, sometimes even that cool stuff in there. Yeah, me too.

Speaker 1: 7:26

But I mean, you've got to know you put your phone in the center or pocket. I kind of learned from my phone. Yeah, you have to learn. But, yes, also that as well. If I know I'm going to change bags like hand handbag for the next day, I'll prepare it in the evening. Yeah, I do as well. Yeah, and I put like everything in there already, the basic stuff so that I don't have to have a frenzy, unless I'm really calm the next morning and I don't care If you're not in a hurry. If you're not in a hurry, that's fine, you've got the day off or or something. But when you're in a hurry, I think as a general tip yes, it's very good in a hurry a very good tip is to be prepared. So like, prepare your outfit, uh, declutter your kit.

Speaker 1: 8:09

What was I saying just today? I said, right, what outfit am I going to wear? Because tomorrow we've got a meeting with the lawyers and I thought, what am I going to wear to the lawyers? I mean, I want to look smart and sort of like professional, and so we were choosing an outfit already today. Yes, and that's far away, isn't it? Yeah, well, it's all that far away tomorrow, yeah, but people would say what are you doing in the morning, choosing something for tomorrow. My husband would say that you're nuts. Yeah, a lot of the times before I actually sort of like, when I'm just sort of in the slumber in the morning slumber, I'll start thinking what, what am I going to wear? What's the outfit? And I visualize it. Do you remember? You were quite surprised when we went, at that, yeah, when we went, when we go on our conferences together, before waking up, no, I'm obviously I'm awake, but then I sort of decide, okay, I'll put that top with that skirt and that, and I figure it all out, and then I wake up. I actually get up and I've got it all sorted as well, yeah, and then you sort it for me as well, yeah, because we wear the same outfit. So I do sort it. Yeah, see it, say it, sort. It reminds me of what they say on the underground in england.

Speaker 1: 9:20

What's, I think, for power planning your day as well. It's like saying no to things that you don't want or don't need in your life. That's another great tip For a stress-free living. Yes is definitely learn to say no. It's saying no unapologetically yes, so don't think about it too much. It's saying no, I can't fit that in today. Yes, sorry, no, yeah too much and say no, I can't, I can't fit that in today. Yes, sorry, yeah, yeah, and apologetically yeah. Well, sorry, no, because you have to be polite. Yes, yes, it will prevent burnout and it will give you, you know, the time to say yes to what really matters.

Speaker 1: 9:54

And I think if you're the kind of person that always tends to want to do things for everybody, learning to say no and learning to just take a bit of a back seat. And then, because, if you're always doing things for everyone, as well, it takes away the. You're kind of robbing that other person of doing those things, aren't you? Absolutely? Well, you're not giving them space to grow either. Because, well, that's especially in the case of when you really like to be in control of absolutely everything at work, at home, and you say, no, I'll just do it, I'll just do it, I'll just it. You know, if you're always doing like, for example, making the dinner, how do you know if the, the person you've got close to you, might say, oh, I have a chance to have fun, you know, prepare something. They might get creative, make you play pasta. You never heard of before. It does because it gives them a chance, doesn't it?

Speaker 1: 10:47

Watching that series on netflix where one of the four seasons, or the seasons where one of the couples was quite, um, the lady in the couple she was, she was quite. I thought she was quite controlling, she always, and her husband had kind of become a bit useless. Yeah, so she was always doing everything for him and he was always the one that was allowed to be like, the one that was like, yeah, like, or she would, oh, no, I'll do it quicker. But she was like taking away the opportunity for him to kind of yes, like man up and and and do stuff. She was just doing everything because she would say that's how I do it.

Speaker 1: 11:26

What mum used to say, that she used to say the more you do, the less they do. That was a big warning. That was like the general rule for, like growing up with our mum. She would say listen, this is a tip about men. Yes, I'm going to give you this tip. She would tell us, like when we were six and seven, and always repeat it the more you do, the less they'll do. So just take a break, sit down and say you can't do it, because I would say things like mum, but surely you know we could paint the corridor.

Speaker 1: 12:00

She always wanted the corridor painted white and I would say to her, like we were about 14, 15, mum, we can all do it. I'll help you, we'll do it. Let leave dad, he's tired. And she would say, no, no, I know I could do it if I wanted to, but I will not do it. And I would think, yeah, but surely nagging dad about it all the time? It was used to drive us crazy, didn't it?

Speaker 1: 12:22

We would always hear her say when are you gonna paint the corridor? What are you? That? That's also something that I do not like. No, no, this, you know this. It was more like she should have just kept quiet about it.

Speaker 1: 12:36

Well, I'm not. Well, that's what I'm. Gentle reminders, I wait. Now if I want something, I just be patient. I just be patient. Me too. I've learned to be patient. I have as well, and a lot of the times I think it's not fair, is it no? And I think if I get told to do something and I don't feel like it or I haven't got the energy, I don't want to do it. No, I would hate it as well. I just want to do it when I feel like it, when you have that bout of energy Sometimes.

Speaker 1: 13:02

I mean the other day my daughter Jasmine. She was saying Mum, we've got this beautiful garden, why don't you just go out and just potter in it, like what the English ladies do? They just go and potter in their gardens. They potter with a cup of tea. When I go gardening, I put my like tracksuit on uh, gardening gloves. You're like everything cap, uh, mosquito repellent, and it's out there for like 10 hours gardening like this massive garden we've got, with massive weeds growing everywhere and god knows what, and so I said let me just try this pottering thing. It did sound quite attractive, it's lovely. So you started pottering around the garden. So I went out fully dressed. I just come back from somewhere and I go pottering and then in the, then if you'd seen me the next like five minutes I'm, I was on a call to her and I go jasmine, this is turning into massive, deep gardening. I had a whole bucket of garden, all you.

Speaker 1: 14:05

So you did not potter. I couldn't potter because the garden just didn't allow for pottering. Well, it's because your mind didn't allow for pottering if you'd taken with you a cup of tea and just sat down and just enjoyed the tea. But I couldn't because I started cutting, then cutting the leaves and then the weeds, and I see these horrible. I know, I know, I know I can't.

Speaker 1: 14:27

Yeah, oh yeah, those sake things. Yeah, those wheat I don't know what they're called in english, I don't know either. Yeah, but they like get into the dog's skin. Yeah, they're like little, you know. You probably know what we're talking about. If you've got a pet, you know and you live in the countryside. Because I don't know, this is yeah, I saw them. So I said why? Then in the end I said I've got a massive wheelbarrow here of cuttings. I cut a tree down, I pulled it. You're joking. In the end I had this tree, I pulled it, oh dear.

Speaker 1: 14:58

But anyway, you enjoyed it, did you? It was not really. Yeah, yeah, it was good, it was satisfying, but I thought this isn't pottering. No, it's definitely not. I've gone out with the idea of just taking my secateurs and cutting a few roses. Oh right, okay, with a little basket, like in the films, like just going and collecting some roses. But it turned out slightly different. It did, but it was still okay. I mean, I was a bit worried about my clothes and couldn't you say no and just like without guilt and ask your husband to help? I couldn't, because he had an operation. Oh well, poor thing, he can't do it. That's why I had more gardening to do. Yes, but I did enjoy it. But I thought I was laughing because I thought this is not pottering. No, so maybe when you're doing your decluttering or whatever you know.

Speaker 1: 15:49

Sometimes, if you can, just the idea of just doing a little small area is very nice. Well, that's how we decided, like again, to talk about the garden, because we also have a large garden, we're in the countryside, so we also did. I, in my mind, I thought I can't handle the whole thing, so I'll do one area. And when I told my husband that he liked it as well, I said just because he'll do the same thing once he starts. He rarely ever does, but once he starts he has to kill himself. Go out there. I say, no, just let's try, just do one thing. Today You're carried away. Yeah, let's just do that garden bed. You know, just cut that palm tree, those leaves, do one thing. I mean he tends to get carried away.

Speaker 1: 16:37

The thing is, if you get carried away too much, and what happens is it? It burns you out, yeah, it puts you off from doing it the next day or the other. You know you might you'll get exhausted and you won't do it. But I mean, I was kind of successful because I managed to do it in my clothes and they were fine and I had your normal clothes. It wasn't. Yeah, it was a minimum amount of you know, it was okay, it wasn't too much. I think next time I'll have to try and limit it a little bit more. But I have to focus on it because I'm just not used to it. I have to build a habit of this.

Speaker 1: 17:12

Just pottering, yes, just pottering, pottering and learning just to look, without. If I see that something's a slightly bigger job, I'll leave that for the day when I'm in my full gardening. Yes, yes, select a date for it? Yeah, definitely, definitely, that would be a good thing. Um, this is all come from saying no without guilt and decluttering it's good. It's good to declutter, definitely for your mind, for your stress. I mean, obviously, gardening makes you feel better, so that's excellent, you know, yeah, because you're outside. Yeah, I mean, like daily movement is so good, isn't it? Yes, you can go for a nice walk. That's why sometimes I go out in the garden.

Speaker 1: 17:59

Like the other day I didn't really. We went on that trip and then I came back and I thought I'll just cut the grass. Now my husband's like you, crazy, you're gonna cut the grass. We've just come back from a big trip and I said do you want to cut the grass? No way in hell, he said do I want to cut the grass? And then my son said just go and put your pajamas on, mum, it's like it's late. And then I thought it was sunny outside. I got really late, so I started cutting it and I actually felt quite good and then it stopped working. So that's it. The lawnmower stopped working again. It was a spark plug. We didn't. I think it's a spark plug. Yeah, that put an end to your work. That put an end. Yeah, I was left a little bit like frustrated. I thought I wanted to kind of finish it Anyway, but the thing is I wanted to move my body, you know.

Speaker 1: 18:48

So I do think moving your body every day Well, that's scientifically been proven, hasn't it? Movement helps you so much psychologically, for stress relief and anxiety. Yes, yes, you know, get out there and do it. I think if you can move your body, whether it's just pottering around or whether it's actually doing a little workout, you know some kind of stretching, something where you're moving your body and if you could perhaps move your body and take a walk outside, or even a short walk, you know, then that helps even further, I think. Well, daily activity helps so much. Yeah, it really does, because it puts. I mean, you have to be kind of mindful.

Speaker 1: 19:29

I mean, do you remember when we were growing up we'd walk to school and that was so boring. We'd find it so boring. But you know what, on those walks to school, even though I didn't like them, my mind would get so creative it would wonder. All the time I would get bored because it was like a 20-minute walk. Was it like 20 minutes? Maybe it seemed longer because it was quite long. It was over 20 minutes. I think it's probably about 22 minutes or something. Oh, wow, three minutes more. Okay, but in in that walk, especially in the cold, you know, when you, just because we were in london yeah, it was chilly and walking I used to sort of invent all kind of stories in my head.

Speaker 1: 20:10

I still remember them now, some of them. We would invent that there was like those walkways, wouldn't we the ones we have, the ones they have at the airport now, the ones where you step on? Yeah, but we would wish that they would be on the road? Yeah, it would help us. Yeah, get there faster, exactly. I still remember that one. We would go oh, like this is magic, you just stand on it and it'll take us with us straight to school really quickly and we won't have to worry about it, or yeah, lots of magical things we would sort of invent that have now turned into reality actually, yeah, yeah. So it's moving your body.

Speaker 1: 20:49

And then, you know, we must never forget to actually breathe, and I know this sounds obvious, but breathing with intention is like different to just breathing. You know you have to. You know, actual, deep, slow breathing activates your parasympathetic nervous system and so it calms your body and mind instantly. So if you can try four to seven or eight deep breaths, you can slowly find that you, you become more relaxed, definitely, and that can help. You know, if you're throughout your day, you can just take these deep breaths anywhere you are really, yeah, just hold it in for a few seconds, yeah, and breathe out for a few seconds, yeah, you do that quite a lot.

Speaker 1: 21:41

Take the longer ones. Yes, I do, I do take the longer ones, but you know, like even a sigh or a yawn that's stressful. Yes, oh, now I feel like yawning, yeah, because actually it's not just when you're tired, you yawn. You yawn also to relieve stress. Yeah, yeah, you actually see little pets do that. Sometimes they're like yawning and you think, oh, they're tired, they're also doing it to relieve stress. It's quite interesting actually. Actually, I remember now you feel like yawning.

Speaker 1: 22:10

Yawning is one of the super contagious things. You know, you one person, you're not bored, we're just. No, we're just relaxing. Now, as we're talking about breathing, it does make you relax, doesn't? It definitely makes you relax, I think. If you're doing something quite stressful or you've got a meeting, you know, just take a few deep breaths before you go in. Or or just fake yawn. You know, if you fake, you're like when you go to the bathroom or something obviously not in front of them, you know you fake. You on your instantly send your mind a message that hey, things are okay. Because you yawn before going to sleep and when you go to sleep, it means that you're calm, otherwise you can't sleep. So it means you're you're not in any particular threat at that moment.

Speaker 1: 22:58

I always have a big yawn before I go to sleep and I noticed it once. Really, yeah, it was quite unusual. I noticed it once and I thought, ah, this is a yawn. Before I go to sleep, when I'm actually lying in bed, I have a yawn. Oh god, you're making me yawn, I can't remember, I'll notice it. And then, every night, I notice I actually do it, and when I become conscious of it, I become conscious. When I do it, I think, ah, so I'm going to fall asleep soon. That's really that's a lovely cue, isn't it? That's like you've sent your mind a message. I'm going to do a big, deep yawn now, and then I'll fall asleep. It's like you've sent your mind a message I'm going to do a big, deep yawn now, and then I'll fall asleep. It's like a kind of hypnotic, you know, command as to say, you're commanding your mind to turn itself off by taking this lovely deep yawn. You can try that, yeah, but not if you're driving or writing machinery. No, no, before sleeping, before sleeping, because we know a lot of people listen to this in the car. Right, yeah, don't do that before. No, no, that's right, we're careful of this.

Speaker 1: 23:57

We also think that you know it's so important as well for stress and anxiety to nourish yourself properly. Yes, so to feed yourself healthy stuff that's going to make you feel great. Absolutely, you eat mindfully, yeah, healthy stuff that's going to make you feel great. Absolutely, you eat mindfully. Yeah, because knowing that what you can, what you actually eat does affect your mood and energy. You know, if you can eat more whole foods, you can get more fruit and veg. Get more fruit and veg. Stay hydrated. And you consciously eat. It's a bit like what we were saying about you consciously yawning.

Speaker 1: 24:30

Conscious eating is just simply becoming aware of what you're eating. Yeah. So looking at your food, yeah, looking at your food, tasting your food, saying thank you for thank you for this. If you're gonna have attitude, if you're gonna have a special, yeah, if you're gonna have a, really make sure that you taste it. You know what did that taste like? You know, sometimes I see my husband he'll just scoff his food and I said did you like that? I don't know what do you mean? You don't know. You know, be more conscious of it. And then when he started, he did this diet once because his blood pressure went too high and he had to lose weight. Then he suddenly became really conscious of what he was eating and that actually helped him. Now he's more conscious of it. Like if he has I don't know a peanut, whatever, I said enjoy it. Yeah, what are you laughing at? Peanut, because it's whole food.

Speaker 1: 25:25

A lot of us we just eat without realizing it. You're just putting things in your mouth. You might be watching TV on your phone yes, yes, you're not actually looking, you're scrolling. While you're eating, you're thinking, okay, this is nourishing me, I'm grateful for this food. Isn't it lovely to be able to have this nice meal, or whatever, or you know. But just you can just taste it. Yeah, just taste it. Take an opportunity to actually taste what you're eating and that is what that's a whole.

Speaker 1: 25:56

You know, philosophy around conscious eating is that we've stopped consciously eating. Nowadays we eat while in some form of trance and we're not actually enjoying it one or even realizing, like what you were saying, the quantity or what we're doing with it. You know, we don't even know if we're full or if we're not full half the time because we're eating so fast that we don't even think oh, we just eat because the time says it's time to eat. Are we really hungry or have we just been programmed to say, oh, you know, I realize how much I'm programmed Like five o'clock I'll suddenly go and say, oh, I fancy a cup of tea, I want a cup of tea, because just being so programmed to think, oh, I'll have a cup of tea, and I just randomly look and of course it's five o'clock.

Speaker 1: 26:45

Of course it's like the English. You know the programming it's five o'clock and it's tea time. Yeah, come on, how programmed have I got stress? I always want tea, a cup of tea, me too. It's because it's like ah, it's also because it's something you have to drink a bit slowly. Yes, it's like you have to take a moment, don't you? You do, not only to prepare it, but also to drink it also. We don't want a cup of tea now.

Speaker 1: 27:14

Yeah, also prioritize your sleep. So go to sleep at a regular time. Yeah, create up at a time, try and create a bedtime ritual, like what violetta was saying with you know the yawn. Yeah, but turn off your device. Yes, absolutely. Read a book or just don't do anything. I know, go and do some crochet or knitting, yeah, yeah, turn, try and turn off the devices.

Speaker 1: 27:42

Something nice, yeah, something calming, even if it is on the screen, but it's something that's going to calm you, because I know it's easy to say turn off screens, don't binge something that you're going to want to stay up until three o'clock in the morning. No, I've done that before. Bad, bad, bad idea. I don't do that anymore now. Try and stay to a regular. Do you know what I've started doing? Even if I'm halfway through a film, I started turning off. If I, if I feel myself yawning or feel that, yes, towards my bedtime, because there's no point watching it, I think I'll watch it tomorrow.

Speaker 1: 28:16

What is your bedtime now? 11, 11, oh, it's more or less my bedtime as well now. Oh, surprise, surprise, no, but now I try and say like 11, yeah, and then it's the, because I get up at 6.30, so I think that's 6.30. Yeah, it's quite early, but I like to have the time before I have to leave the house. Yes, because that's something else, that for me it's a stress relief. Yeah, knowing that.

Speaker 1: 28:42

Yeah, and I have to be able to have breakfast. Yes, yeah, do my little rituals. I want at least 30 minutes for breakfast, yeah, yeah, yeah, do my little rituals. I want at least 30 minutes for breakfast. Yeah, yeah, at least. I mean, it sounds a lot really, because I don't even eat that much, but just to be able to just sit down and and I like to look outside when I have breakfast, I've got lucky. I'm lucky because I've got the um, the kitchen door is a window so I can see into the garden and that I find that very relaxing.

Speaker 1: 29:11

Even like now, my husband sits in front of me so he blocks the view. So I'll move away. And I'm always thinking is he going to notice that I'm just moving? He never does notice. No, he's like, no, he's not mindful. The same way he doesn't. He's a different one, he's a darling, but he's different. Yeah, he just doesn't realize it, but I, for me, that's like important to be able to look outside. That's important, that's an important point.

Speaker 1: 29:39

And to know to become aware. You know yourself and know what relaxes you and what makes you feel good. Yes, so, and then go and do those things, yeah, and you know, find time to do those. You know, allocate time for them if you know that you are somebody that might. You know you like breakfast and you want to be able to have the time. Don't make it rushed. Why are you making it hard on yourself? You know, begin to understand that. Yeah, I do actually like to sit down and you know, sit my coffee slowly. Whatever you're drinking, do it. You know, allocate that space and time for yourself, because that will, in the end, build up and, you know, help you so much it starts your day. Well, yeah, I'm thinking.

Speaker 1: 30:24

When the children were young, I used to get up an hour earlier on purpose, exactly, just to be able to have breakfast and organise everything calmly before they work out. Yeah, me too, definitely. So just know yourself and know what you need, and then you know you might think, yeah, but I could have had an extra hour of sleep. But maybe try and go to bed earlier, or just, I don't know, organise yourself, because I think organisation and discipline in daily routines really does help if you're feeling anxious or stressed, you know to have that so much. You know the daily habits, the routines that keep so much it can definitely help.

Speaker 1: 31:00

Yeah, it's that grounding, it's like what you say, just simple little things, habits, discipline that that repeat themselves daily. Yeah, tied in is putting your keys in one place, this in the other place. Knowing you where your things are can keep you calm as well, because that can also create anxiety if you you can't, you know you're losing stuff. And also, you know, don't, don't forget to talk it out. You know, share it, yeah, talk it out, share it with each other, share it with a friend, a therapist, a journal. Yeah, because you'll find that everybody's the same. In the end, they all feel the same, don't they? They do A lot of people are feeling exactly the way that you are, yeah, and so if you share, if you talk, if you discuss it, you know, sometimes it's surprising you can just say gosh, I'm, I'm just feeling, you know, nervous.

Speaker 1: 31:52

Today, when I was feeling anxious, I felt as if I couldn't see properly. I mean, I wear glasses, but I felt the glasses weren't working, you know. And so I shared that with my daughter when I was on a call to her, and she said mum, I feel the same when I, when I get anxious or nervous, I can't see either. And I said, really, that's so weird. And she goes yeah, because you're feeling, you know, you're overwhelmed, you're feeling anxious. So just, you know, take a moment, calm down. And just the fact that she said that to me, that made me feel so much calmer and I thought, okay, and then I went for a nice walk and I, you know, I did something for myself and I felt a lot better and you found that your vision returned perfectly. Yeah, it was fine, it was the same as it was before, because it's not perfect, but it was the same as it was before it was fine.

Speaker 1: 32:38

So what I'm saying is we work ourselves up into these days, but when we share it with other people, we share our problems and we find other people have the same thing and it's okay. Yes, yes, you feel calmer, don't you? You do feel calmer and I think, if you remember sort of like to feel to practice gratitude, you know that's another little habit, self-discipline, that's another one that's gonna definitely help you throughout your day. Just say, oh well, I'm grateful, I've got this and I'm grateful for that, and you know there's so many things in the end that we are grateful for that. I think what you're looking at means no, it's true, yeah. And to say we're grateful that the sun comes up tomorrow morning, oh yeah, definitely. You know tomorrow's another day and the sun will shine, or it won't shine, but it'll be there behind the clouds or whatever.

Speaker 1: 33:33

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