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Emotional Baggage: How to Let Go
We all have that feeling sometimes—like we're carrying weights that slow us down, drain our energy, and keep us from feeling light and free. But what exactly is this burden? It's our emotional baggage, and in this deeply reflective episode, we unpack this universal human experience through a powerful metaphor.
Think about walking around the supermarket with heavy shopping bags, never allowing yourself to put them down. Then imagine filling those bags with items you don't even use anymore—old products, expired goods—things that serve no purpose but take up precious space. That's exactly how emotional baggage operates in our lives. We accumulate hurts, regrets, and unprocessed experiences, carrying them around like hoarders who can't distinguish between what's valuable and what's merely weighing us down.
The journey of lightening your emotional load starts with awareness. Just like physical weight that creeps up gradually, emotional baggage accumulates so subtly that we often don't notice until we feel completely burdened. We share a simple but profound meditation practice: visualize a backpack full of bricks on your back, then imagine walking up a hill, removing these bricks one by one until your load becomes lighter. You'll literally feel the difference in your body as you create this mental space.
What makes this approach different is understanding that carrying less emotional baggage doesn't mean forgetting what happened to you. Instead, it means making peace with those experiences, extracting their lessons without carrying the burning emotional charge. We explore how divorced friends found freedom not by erasing their marriages from memory, but by removing the weight of resentment and seeing those relationships as feedback rather than failures.
Today, we invite you to identify just one "brick" you're carrying—one piece of emotional baggage you're ready to release. Name it, acknowledge it, and consciously put it down. When tomorrow comes, you might be surprised how much sunnier your outlook becomes when you're carrying even a little less weight. Join us on Instagram @theenglishsisters or watch the full video version on YouTube to continue this conversation about lightening your emotional load.
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letting go can be hard at times. We have all this heavy baggage we carry around with us that just says when you go to the supermarket, imagine never putting those bags down. Oh my goodness, you know not getting that relief when you get home and you put them down. Or imagine going to the supermarket and then getting all the kind of stuff that you actually do not like or need. That would be more like, you know, because when you go and you get the stuff you want, but imagine just loading up on all kind of stuff that you know you're never going to use. Well, not maybe that you're never going to use now, it's stuff that you used to use before and you used to have in your diet, but you don't need it at the moment yeah, at the moment you don't eat it. Or they're products that you don't actually use anymore, like cleaning products, or like or like, yeah, and you're just filling up your cabinet space and your fridge with these kind of things that you don't like and you're thinking why am I doing it? We know why you're doing it Because it's emotional baggage, and that's what we're going to be chatting about in this week's episode of get real with the English sisters mind, health and anxiety.
Speaker 1:So how do we break this loop? How do we break the loop of continuing? Like we've always said in many of our other podcasts? The first step is to become aware that you're carrying it. You're right, because, just like those extra kilos that some of us carry around, they just creep up on us and we don't really, we don't, we don't, we don't, we don't know, we don't know we're putting away us down until we go for a walk or a run and we feel out of breath, yeah, and we feel huffed and puffed and we feel heavy than heavier than what we normally feel, and then we think, oh, you're right, actually, yeah, because I think a lot of this emotional baggage does creep up on you and you don't even realise that you're just accumulating it and you're like, hoarding it. Yeah, you're hoarding it. I know it's awful, really, I mean it sounds funny, but it's not. You're hoarding all the emotional baggage which is, you know, I can just imagine hoarding stuff that you really, really do not like or need, but you think you need it. Yeah, that's the thing it's like.
Speaker 1:If you, if you go to the supermarket, into the psychic of hoarders yes, they often they feel if they let go of that stuff, they're letting go of part of themselves, yes. So it's very hard for them and it's actually very traumatising for them to let go of things, because other people would look at and say, that's just rubbish, you don't need any of that. Yeah, you could definitely let go. Absolutely, you're absolutely right. I mean, it is so true. Yeah, it, it, it. I'm thinking it's funny because I can imagine myself when I go no, no, I'm not doing it. No, no, I'm not. What do you mean? I'm hoarding? No, no, I don't hoard.
Speaker 1:You know who hoards? My husband hoards. He's a real little hoarder, but and he always has something attached to the emotional baggage as well, sometimes, probably, yeah, he, he probably doesn't want to go into it, no, but he does have a lot of emotional baggage. Yeah, he does carry around with him. Probably makes him feel. He always says you're so light, how could you be so like, carefree, and we, you know the business and this and that.
Speaker 1:And I say, yeah, but let's think about today, right now, because you live more in the present. Yes, I go, let's not, I can, I put, but I do love preparing. It's not that I live only in the present. You don't prepare when you live in the present, but I don't feel like I get them.
Speaker 1:People get confused with living in the present. It doesn't mean you don't prepare when you live in the present, but I don't feel like I have People get confused with living in the present and thinking you don't do anything, you don't prepare. It doesn't mean you're not disciplined and you don't prepare or plan for things. It just means that you don't allow your mind to race ahead or race behind, because most, if you think about it, most of your thoughts are either thinking about something that's gone in the past yeah, about the past or thinking about worrying about the future, or thinking about the future and how, how?
Speaker 1:You know how often do we just stay here in the present that's very unusual and be like really focused on the present moment and you know what you're actually doing right now. You know feeling the seat beneath your legs or whatever, and feeling light and easy in the moment yeah, feeling kind of in the moment. You're right, feeling in your body. When I don't feel in the moment, I actually feel really anxious. When I, when I don't feel in the moment, I actually feel really anxious when I'm starting to think of something like it's a weekend and I start thinking of Monday or something, of the next day's work and all the things that then I start feeling anxious and I bring myself back and I say no, it's, that's not the time now, you know, and I I can manage to do that, but of course and there's a technique we ask you how how much emotional baggage?
Speaker 1:You know, how heavy is the backpack on your back? Is it heavy, is it light? Is there nothing in it? Are they just, you know? Is it just okay? It's just just just there because you might need it, because that would be ideal, it would be great if you needed something in it. You know, like when you plan to go for a trip, you take your backpack, but it's very light, it's light, it hasn't got that much. Oh, just a step.
Speaker 1:When I went for a weekend trip, I certainly didn't. It wasn't light. I prepared this massive suitcase. However, I did wheels, though it did have wheels on your back, no, and, and I was going by car, and, and, and I did actually need all of the stuff that I put in there, exactly because it was actually cold. Where I went in the end, it was in the mountains. It was much chillier.
Speaker 1:But, yes, we must ask ourselves these kind of questions, I think, because we all do carry around far too much, and it what happens is that it causes these patterns of unconscious behavior to keep on recurring. We keep on repeating the same things. Maybe it's in relationships or it's at work, but when you do carry this emotional baggage around, you cannot see your true self. No, because you always think about the things your true self is. It's baggage, it's hidden away as to say, yes, you're, you're heavier, you're, you're not really the essence of who you really are. You're way down, you're way down.
Speaker 1:So you've got to remember that carrying emotional baggage around isn't, it's just freeing, but it doesn't mean that you're forgetting things that happen to you. You don't have to forget them, but you have. What you have to do is is to learn to make peace with them. Yeah, to make peace, and not to carry the emotion around, because the emotion will burn you, yeah. So I think you just have to have a good look at whatever's troubling you, what emotional baggage you have, and think how does it serve me now? Is it serving a purpose now? Is it making me take actions and making me do something that's going to help me resolve this, or is it just? Is it something I really do have to let go of? Like, if you're with in a toxic relationship or something, do you have to let go of that and, you know, move on? What do you have to do to to solve this? Because I mean, I was solving, it needs solving.
Speaker 1:There was we were at dinner with friends the other night and they were both recently divorced and it was so lovely to hear them speak about their exes, because they were both speaking yes, yes, it was really hard and and there was a lot to blame, and he did this and she did this and that. But at the end of this whole thing, they were saying, yeah, but we're friends now, yeah, so they've resolved it, they've forgiven and they have not forgotten, but they've forgiven so that they too, as new people, can come back into the world of love and light and not feel weighed down by this old baggage. They were both light as people now, whereas I remember seeing them because they're old friends, seeing them in the past, and they were much heavier it's it's not heavier physically, heavier mentally they weren't as happy were they. No, they're much happier now because they're lighter and I think they're both carrying less baggage around.
Speaker 1:Ironically, you know, yeah, because you would think you know they've had failed marriages. Yes, they might be. You don't think of it as failure because in the end, they had, you know, lovely children from marriage and it was just like an episode in your life. You have't think of it as failure because in the end, they had, you know, lovely children from marriage and it was just like an episode in your life. You have to think of these things not as failure, but like feedback. They're feedback, your life experiences that you've learned. It's your life. There are those years in your life that you will never get back. So the only way I think is to actually heal from things like separation and divorce is to remember the good times you did have with that person, and they're always good times. Don't forget the the more awkward or difficult times, because they're there to serve you for a purpose, because, yes, you know you.
Speaker 1:You don't want to repeat that in a new relationship. You do not want to follow those patterns. You don't want to continue this loop of whatever was bothering you In the old relationship. You want to learn and grow from it, but you don't want to have this baggage or this shadow of yourself following you around. You don't want that. You want to be able to understand that. That was you a while ago, but you are forever changing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, if I think of what I used to be like, I mean I can hardly even recognise myself. No, the things you would have said in the past, they're not things you would say today. No, we're like almost different people. Yes, so sometimes when I see you know some of our old friends and they reminisce about the past, do you remember that? Yeah, it's sweet, but I can't really relate to that girl anymore. No, only some, some of the core essence and the values and beliefs are always there, but I can't really relate to that anymore. For a lot of the times I can't even remember it because it wasn't that important to me, but I think it is. You've let go, because we, we tend to let go. Yes, absolutely, absolutely. You let go.
Speaker 1:And there might be something really, really hurtful that someone said to you as well, and you, you never, you never. You know, get into that person's shoes and just think well, you know why did they say that? Because sometimes people don't actually say sorry. You know that they, it's just not in their nature, like in our, in our, with our parents, like our dad, he would never apologize for anything, never. He just didn't even know no, I don't know, never. So we would have never apologized by making us a cup of tea or something. Yes, that was his way.
Speaker 1:So sometimes, you know, communication comes in very different forms. You don't need to to. A lot of the times you don't need to receive that formal apology or the. You know the word sorry, but you can see that that person is sorry in his own or her way, wants to, is apologizing. Yes, that's very true, actually, because there's no point being so and so.
Speaker 1:So why do we have to hang on to these things that maybe someone said to you once. You have to keep that in your head. Just let go of it. Know that they said that because they're human and people make mistakes and they say things that they don't really mean, and if they did mean them at the time, they may not mean them now, because they've changed and life changes you, because that's what life is supposed to do. You're supposed to evolve and change you're. You're growing all the time. So you're growing mentally as well and through experiences.
Speaker 1:So there is a meditation you can do. It's just, you know, when you, if you're not driving, you can just close your eyes and imagine that backpack on your back full of bricks, and then you just imagine walking up a hill and just putting those bricks down one by one, by one, till you get to the top, and then feel how light that backpack is at the top, and then you can maybe even take it off and, just you know, take a few deep breaths and just sit there quietly in that, in that space, for a few moments until you feel as if you have, like, released all this, all these things that you no longer need and I'm not no longer serving you. But you can still keep, like what you were saying yeah, you can see, yeah, the the memories associated to. Yes, that's right, you don't do you, you know you. You, you can lighten the load and you can lighten. I think you can keep some of it.
Speaker 1:If you're not ready, you can also keep pathways open as well, so that you can in the future, maybe you can go and mend some of those relationships. But if, if, if they're not, you know, if it's not possible to mend them now, you don't have to hold hatred and anger towards that person. You can just be at peace, calm within yourself. Yes, if you've decided to you know, I know break up with someone or ghost someone, or just decide not, you don't want to ever speak to someone again, but just say, okay, I'm okay with that, I've made my peace with that.
Speaker 1:But don't carry all those words and hatred around with you, because that's what really weighs you down, that is what is making you feel tired emotionally. A lot of the time, we feel these symptoms like of constant fatigue, constant not being able to get on with things. We're feeling unfocused, life is heavy, but we don't know how to describe it. So the question is, could it be your emotional baggage that you're carrying around that you don't really want to see? Or you, you've hidden away and you, you, you don't want to address it, but maybe you don't have to go deep into what it is. But you know there are certain things that you do carry around, certain things. That what the letter was saying, you repeat to yourself over and over again.
Speaker 1:And maybe it's time, right now, today, to release something, to lighten that load for yourself, so that you can feel less weighed down. You can, your mind will have more space. There is no doubt. If your mind is filled with space, sunnier tomorrow morning, it will definitely be sunnier tomorrow morning, absolutely so. Let us know what you think of this week's episode.
Speaker 1:Do you have emotional baggage? Most of us do Very difficult not to. If we were alive, yeah. But you know, just yeah, you could maybe just think about this and just think okay, today, what is one brick that I want to release today? Yeah, you can give it a name and think about that one thing today, consciously, that you'll put down. That you can put down. Thank you for listening. As always, come and see us on instagram, at the english sisters or at get real with the english sisters. On youtube, you can see the full video version of the podcast and the podcast version as well, and wherever you get your podcasts, you can listen to Get Real with the English Sisters Mind, health and Anxiety. See you soon. See you soon, bye-bye.
