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You’re Not Broken, You’re Healing (and that’s beautiful)
Ever caught yourself thinking you're beyond repair? That moment when life's roadmap seems to have vanished, leaving you disoriented and questioning your path forward? This raw and heartfelt conversation tackles the powerful distinction between feeling broken and being in the process of healing.
Drawing from a surprisingly relevant experience of driving without lane markings, we explore how disorienting life becomes when we lose our guideposts. Yet just as we can navigate uncertain roads by slowing down and trusting ourselves, we can navigate our healing journeys with similar patience and self-trust. We share why the metaphor of windswept trees perfectly captures human resilience—how despite being bent by life's storms, we continue growing, incorporating our twists and scars into our ongoing development.
Many listeners have expressed feeling fundamentally damaged by difficult childhoods, traumatic experiences, or profound losses. We challenge this perspective by exploring the Japanese art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, creating something more beautiful than before. Your wounds, once acknowledged and tenderly addressed, become sources of unique strength rather than permanent damage.
The healing journey takes time—sometimes years—and requires generous self-compassion. Whether you're processing grief, recovering from trauma, or simply feeling lost, remember: you were born whole, and that wholeness remains your birthright. Today's pain doesn't define tomorrow's possibilities. Give yourself permission to heal at your own pace, to seek support when needed, and to recognize the remarkable resilience you already possess.
Have you been too hard on yourself lately? Perhaps it's time to place a hand on your heart and whisper, "It's okay. I'm healing now." Connect with us on YouTube and Instagram to continue this conversation and discover more resources for your healing journey.
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Have you ever heard of the saying you're healing, but not broken? Yes, I mean, I have heard a lot of people say to us that they feel as if they're broken, yeah, as if they can't be fixed, as if they need to be fixed but they're just broken, that there's no repairing. Yeah, yeah, I've heard that many, many times. Yeah, and so that's what we're going to be talking about in this week's episode of Get Real With the English Sisters your healing, not broken. Yeah, I really do like that.
Speaker 1:I was thinking today when we were driving back from seeing a client, thinking today when we were driving back from seeing a client, we, we went on the motorway and there was no, there was no signaling. The signal, the light, the lanes had been taken away, the white lines to in order to restore them. Yeah, they were obviously where, where you had to drive, they were going to be repainting them or something, because there was road works yes, road works and I was finding it actually really difficult to drive along them, yeah, to keep my lane, and I was finding it really unsettling. I was thinking, gosh, this is really hard. Obviously you have to slow down and everything, but I was thinking if you had like just the white lines that show you the lane. They're just so significative how they can actually help you so much and guide you, and yet all you have to do is go straight, because so it's not complicated, no, but yet you would think you know that you could, you could just do that. You think what's the big deal? You know there's a white line or there's not a white line. I mean there's no need to panic, sort of thing. But as soon as you don just do that, you think what's the big deal? You know there's a white line or there's not a white line. I mean there's no need to panic, sort of thing. But as soon as you don't see that guideline, it is a bit like that and I was thinking that as well.
Speaker 1:You know, like in life it is sometimes it's nice not to have all these specified, you know guidelines, rectified, you know guidelines, but I do think a general line of where you're going is, you know, is needed for each and every one of us in order so that we know what we're doing, like a guiding light. Well, yes, a guiding light, yeah, a guiding line, something that you know what you're doing. Yeah, so if you're, if you're feeling so if you are feeling broken, there are, there are lessons to be taken from this, aren't there? I think I? I do like what you said. You're not really broken, you are in the process of healing and there may be scars yeah, there always is. Most of the time, we all have a few scars, you know whether on our skin or whether in our hearts. You know metaphorically, um, so definitely I think I also think of, like in the garden, when you have, um, a tree that's like bent because it's it's been blown about by the wind and it's had all life life thrown at it and yet when the wind calms down, it can actually, you know, grow straight again, grow up straight.
Speaker 1:I've got many trees like that in my garden, really blown about, and you think, oh, my gosh, you know they're not gonna make it right. Yeah, but they do, they do, they do, and they have all their little niggles and their twirls and their knots, and yet they do, they do grow stronger for it. The resilience is there and I think it's nice to remember that sometimes, because I think a lot of the times, especially when we do feel as if we're broken or we feel as if A lot of people just feel as if they haven't had the right sort of foot in life, they were given the wrong deck of cards because the family was not quite right. And you think, no, I can never be. I've heard this phrase. I'm a friend, I can never be as good as you, because you were sort of like you had this healing childhood. And yet a lot of them don't get that, and so they feel as if there's missing parts somehow. But I do think those missing parts can be found.
Speaker 1:Life is a bit like a puzzle, isn't it? You find things that you need Well. Well, it's doing as life goes on, as you, as as you live day by day and you gather strength and you accept the fact that you're not broken, that you are healing. I think that's a big part of it, yeah, and you look for that guideline and you look for those white lines along the, the, the road. Or you look for the guideline and you look for those white lines along the road, or you look for the person or the people that can help you and support you and you're kind to yourself. That's when the healing can really take place, because then you can put everything into action that you need to heal, instead of beating yourself up and saying that you know, just putting yourself down and saying that you know, just putting yourself down and saying that you're broken when you're not. None of us ever are. Well, it's not possible. It is actually. Yes, I mean it.
Speaker 1:When we say we're broken, what we're saying is that we're hurting. Yes, there's a part of us that's hurting and that part needs to be listened to because we, we're very, very upset or because we haven't had that, that childhood, that with the parents that were like perfect or whatever. So we've, we feel as if there's parts that weren't fully listened. Listen to, yes, so I think I think you're right. Yeah, I think it's ourselves that we have to sort of say no, I'm going to give myself a break here. I I don't necessarily, you don't necessarily have to say you're broken. You can say I'm in the process of healing and it doesn't matter how long that's going to take. It's a process.
Speaker 1:Well, I think most of us are healing all the time, aren't we? It's a process. Well, I think most of us are healing all the time, aren't we? From lots of little things, from so many things, we've always got some Small and large, whatever it is buckle in life. There's always something going on in our life that we're having to heal from. I mean it might sound like it's exaggerated to say that, but I'm sure that most of you listening can can identify with it that there's always a part of you that's either grieving or you're grieving a loss of of a parent or of someone or something. There's always something in your life that you may have an illness or something that you're trying to come to terms with, or an addiction or past trauma. Yeah, I mean, most of us, if we're alive, we've had things happen. Exactly we're like those trees. You know the wind has passed, the rains have fallen, the sun has shone, and maybe sometimes a bit too hard, and and things have happened. You know we've been windswept, we've been, but that's part's part of living. So I think yes, I do agree.
Speaker 1:I think we do have to understand that we are complex and infinite beings. It is difficult to say, you cannot say we are broken, because we are born whole, exactly, and nobody can really take that away. Even though you've had abusive you know an abusive past, if you go back to your beginning and you look inside, you are actually whole. But you may need to be healed. You may need that healing part, and the first step is acknowledging that and being kind to yourself and allow that healing to take place. Be gentle, be kind, be, be gentle to yourself.
Speaker 1:Above all, I would say, except, okay, this has happened to me, I, I'm in the process of healing. I mean, it's like those beautiful japanese vases. Everyone always says, you know how the broken ones, that they heal them, they heal them, they, they seal them with gold, they do, they do them. The vasa breaks and then they put the beautiful gold, yeah, and so it's even nicer afterwards. Yes, I mean, that's that's the kind of metaphor everyone uses, and, and because it's a valid one, and it's true, it's really windy out there today, just as we were saying, just as, yeah, I do hope this isn't being picked up, but it might be, I don't know We've actually decided to leave one of the windows open, but yes, it is very much like that, but yes, it is very much like that. I think it's comforting to feel as if you're in the process of healing, to actually put your hand to your heart and just say it's okay, it's okay, yeah, I'm healing now and I'm going to be okay and I may need help. I may need the support of whoever family, friends, a therapist but I'm going to be okay and I'm not going to be nasty to myself or harsh on myself and say that I'm broken, because I'm not.
Speaker 1:And there's great resilience in acknowledging that. It makes you feel resilient, doesn't it? It does, and we are, as human beings. We are very resilient, extremely. And when we go to bed at night, each night, we renew, we do all that wonderful things inside our bodies. We're incredible. So, yes, we are very resilient, indeed, much more than what we give ourselves credit for.
Speaker 1:And I think, even if, you know, bad things have happened to us in the past and we may feel as if we're broken, you know, let's not let that get in the way of our future we can still have a good future ahead of ourselves. It doesn't mean that, because we are broken, that now, today, we feel like that, that, that tomorrow can't be different. It can be. Yes, because I know, like I was thinking of a young mother, we were, you know, a young lady who wanted to become a mother and she said I cannot be a mother because I've had no good example. I'm broken. You know, she said I was broken by my parents. It was being awful.
Speaker 1:You know this and that, but you are here today and you are speaking to us and that already, I think, is going to make you a great mum. Well, yes, because you're already concerned about it. Yes, you're going to be a good, you're going to be a good mum because otherwise you wouldn't even be thinking yes. So you, you, your past doesn't make up your future. You can change it. Yeah, it's not, it's one day at a time. Yes, one day at a time. And then having the guidance to know where you're going and what you want for yourself, and being being proud of yourself. Yeah, proud of yourself and the progress you've made. Be proud and allow that time and healing can take as long as it needs to take.
Speaker 1:Sometimes, you know, for some people it's just settling and being with themselves. You know they may go for a walk and understanding that it's not definite's. Nothing is set in stone. We're human beings, we evolve so much and we change so much. So you can't say you, you're broken.
Speaker 1:You can say you may feel as if you're devastated, as if you're broken today, but then things change and you need to and you need the nourishment, just like the tree needs the nourishment, the water, the elements. You know you might need some chicken broth or something. You know, just take it easy. Maybe you can take care of yourself. Cuddles yes, give yourself a cuddle, you know. Look after yourself and then you'll see, the healing will take place. So, thank you for listening, listening. Please do come and see us on social media, on youtube, on instagram yep, instagram also and you can see the, the live, the video, on youtube too. And thank you for listening. As always, we do love and appreciate you all and we look forward to seeing you again next week. We are therapists and we are here to help you. Thank you so much. Bye-bye, bye.
